A brutal gout flare turned ordinary steps into fire and forced a hard reset. I’m a licensed clinical social worker, a Navy vet, and yes, a fat guy with a microphone, starting at 415 pounds and aiming below 250 without the empty promises of New Year hype. This is a frank, first‑person blueprint for change that actually sticks: baby steps, not bravado; coping skills over willpower; community over isolation.

I walk through the arc that got me here—post‑service depression, pandemic weight creep, and the day pain made movement feel impossible. Then we get practical. I share how I’m using cognitive behavioral tools to avoid all‑or‑nothing thinking, set goals I can keep, and treat relapses as data instead of defeat. We talk gout‑friendly nutrition, hydration, and blood pressure, plus how I’m rebuilding activity with micro‑walks between sessions and seated Beat Saber to raise heart rate without wrecking my foot.

You’ll hear the difference between “never again” and “do my best, consistently.” I explain how a simple coping card—writing down the memory of pain and the reasons I’m changing—helps when cravings hit. We dig into sustainable swaps for sugar, adding friction to impulsive choices, and designing an environment that makes healthy moves the easy ones. Most of all, I’m inviting you in: I want a co‑host who can laugh, push, and share the mic, and I want your ideas, wins, and experiments so we can build momentum together.

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