Some people walk into a room and the room adjusts. It happens before they say a word, and it has very little to do with their title or what they are wearing. Janet Bartucci spent decades advising chief executives at The Estée Lauder Companies and Hill & Knowlton through CEO transitions, global crises, and brand reinventions, and she has a name for the thing she kept noticing in those rooms. She calls it gravitas, and she calls it the ultimate luxury. She and Heather take it apart piece by piece, from the voice you use in a conference room to the values underneath the life you are actually building.

What you'll learn in this episode

• Why gravitas is a learned behavior rather than something people are born with, and Janet's letter by letter breakdown of what it is made of: grace, respect and resilience, authenticity and awareness, voice, integrity and interest, timing and tact, approachability, signature style and substance

• How to speak with authority without raising your voice, including modulation, pitch, the deliberate pause, and why the first thirty seconds after you open your mouth decide how the room listens

• What a signature style actually does for you, and why the woman who is not thinking about her hemline is free to read the room instead

• How gravitas works outside the C-suite, for gala chairs, nonprofit founders, and anyone responsible for making other people care about a cause

• Why your goals and your values can quietly stop matching, and the questions Janet asks women in their forties and again in their sixties when they hit that wall

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  About the guest

• Janet Bartucci spent decades inside luxury brands and high-stakes communications, advising C-suite leaders at The Estée Lauder Companies and Hill & Knowlton through CEO transitions, global crises, and brand reinventions. She has founded three companies of her own. Today, through Conscious Living Coaching, she helps executives and entrepreneurs build gravitas: the grounded presence that determines how a person is received long before they speak.

  Connect with Janet

  • Website: janetbartucci.coach

  • LinkedIn: Janet Bartucci

• • Email: janet@janetbartucci.com

  
  

  About your host

• Heather Wiese is the founder of Bell'INVITO, the luxury stationery and design house she has led for more than twenty years, trusted with the invitations, menus, and correspondence behind some of the country's most considered occasions. A modern etiquette authority and longtime PaperCity columnist, she has built her career reading the quiet rules of how people gather, connect, and are received. On Social In Security, she brings that vantage point to a weekly conversation about etiquette, luxury, and social intelligence, alongside the experts, insiders, and coaches who know these rooms from the inside.

  Connect

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  This episode is presented by Bell'INVITO

  At Bell'INVITO, we believe the details are the point. For more than twenty years, we have created the invitations behind some of the world's most beautiful occasions: paper that is held, kept, and framed, and the quiet art of the first impression long before anyone walks in the room. bellinvito.com

  
  

Some people walk into any room and seem to just belong, but the ease that looks so natural was learned. Somewhere along the way, they picked up a language most of us were never taught. Social In Security is the modern etiquette podcast that teaches it, one conversation at a time. Host Heather Wiese, founder of Bell'INVITO, and the insiders who really know make the unspoken rules of etiquette, luxury, and social intelligence learnable for the rest of us.

What You'll Learn in On This Podcast

• Why the people who seem effortlessly at ease were not born that way, and what they learned that most of us were never taught
• How to read the social intelligence underneath everyday interactions, from the dinner party to the boardroom
• The modern etiquette that actually matters now: strong first impressions, gracious introductions, and the art of a graceful exit
• What insiders know about being considered and invited, drawn from experts in body language, voice, and luxury travel and more.

About the Host:

Heather Wiese is the founder of Bell'INVITO, the luxury stationery and design house she has led for more than twenty years, trusted with the invitations, menus, and correspondence behind some of the country's most considered occasions. A modern etiquette authority and longtime PaperCity columnist, she has built her career reading the quiet rules of how people gather, connect, and are received. On Social In Security, she brings that vantage point to a weekly conversation about etiquette, luxury, and social intelligence, alongside the experts, insiders, and coaches who know these rooms from the inside.

• Send a moment you want decoded to ask@social-in-security.com, or write in as "asking for a friend."
• Follow Social In Security wherever you listen. If an episode helps, send it to someone who would appreciate it.
• Instagram: @social.in.security

This episode is presented by Bell'INVITO

At Bell'INVITO, we believe the details are the point. For more than twenty years, we have created the invitations behind some of the world's most beautiful occasions: paper that is held, kept, and framed, and the quiet art of the first impression long before anyone walks in the room. bellinvito.com