This week on Slay The Gatekeeper, I’m joined by Joel Monteleone, dating coach, speaker, and creator of Hot Takes, Hot Dates, the wildly fun, emotionally intelligent singles experience taking Austin by storm! Joel blends emotional intelligence coaching with edgy, practical, and often hilarious dating strategy.
In this episode, he shares the patterns keeping people single, the lies we tell ourselves about “bad dating cities,” and why responsibility, not victimhood, is the real cheat code to love and being loved.
We talk about avoiding self-sabotage, building attraction through polarity, rewiring beliefs about rejection, and how vulnerability and alignment are the foundation of every healthy partnership. Joel also shares his most counterintuitive dating hot takes, why connection isn’t supposed to be so serious, and the mindset shifts that turn modern dating from chaos into opportunity.
If you’ve been attracting the same partners on repeat, feeling stuck on the apps, or wanting a more empowered approach to love, this episode will challenge your assumptions, make you laugh, and give you tools you can use tonight.
01:22 Wanting change vs. acting like it
06:10 Problematic dating cheat codes & why we unconsciously repeat patterns
11:00 The obsession trap
14:55 Don’t be a victim - ownership as the #1 dating cheat code
18:45 Where to actually meet high-quality partners (and why “the proper” isn’t it)
22:40 “Pay for your friends”
26:05 Be hot and make your bag
30:50 Why modern self-development culture killed fun (and how Joel brings it back)
34:55 Polarity 101: how masculine/feminine energy shapes attraction
48:10 tatistics don’t apply to you
About Joel Monteleone
Joel Monteleone is a dating coach, speaker, and the creator of Hot Takes, Hot Dates, a bold new offline experience helping singles ditch the awkwardness and rediscover connection through comedy, play, and emotional intelligence. With a background in EI coaching, Joel specializes in helping high-achieving men and women break out of victim stories, build authentic confidence, and create relationships rooted in clarity, intentionality, and fun.
Connect with Joel:

📱Instagram: @joel_monteleone
💼 LinkedIn: Joel Monteleone
📱Instagram: @hottakeshotdates
🎫 Get your ticket: posh.vip/e/hot-takes-hot-dates-austins-most-fun-singles-event
Stay connected with me
📧 Contact: courtney@smoothmedia.co
👍 Instagram: @courtlynnjohnson
💼 LinkedIn: Courtney Johnson
🎶 TikTok: @courtney..johnson

This week on Slay The Gatekeeper, I’m joined by Anne Mahlum, founder of Solidcore, builder of a 100+ studio empire, and the force behind one of the most iconic nine-figure exits in boutique fitness.
Before scaling Solidcore into a nationwide powerhouse, Anne founded Back on My Feet, a nonprofit that empowers individuals experiencing homelessness through running, structure, and community. Years later, she took a completely different idea: a Pilates-inspired concept she discovered by accident, and turned it into a category-defining brand she eventually sold for $98.4 million.
In this episode, Anne breaks down the cheat codes that shaped her life and career: why having a Plan B is really just planning to fail, how to build a culture people rise to meet, what separates high performers from excuse-makers, and how she built a company that eventually ran without her, giving her the leverage to negotiate the exit on her terms.
This conversation is direct, unfiltered, and loaded with founder wisdom. If you’re building something big, leading a team, or trying to level up your resilience, this episode will show you what going all in actually looks like.
02:30 Finding purpose in unexpected places
05:45 The Pilates class that sparked solidcore
08:10 Identifying your unfair advantage
11:25 The first-to-market window that changed everything
18:40 Building culture through standards, not slogans
22:05 Money literacy: why information isn’t the problem
27:20 Turning down $75K to stay all-in
32:15 Why EQ matters more than experience
36:50 Letting go: building a company that outlasts you
‼️🔗 Resources Mentioned
• Rich Dad Poor Dad – Robert Kiyosaki
• How to Win Friends & Influence People – Dale Carnegie
• You Are a Badass at Making Money – Jen Sincero
• Tony Robbins (Date With Destiny, plus his free content)
• The Moneywise Podcast
• Content by Sam Parr
About Anne Mahlum
Anne Mahlum is an entrepreneur and female motivational speaker who's passionate about empowering people to live life on their own terms. The beginning of Anne’s entrepreneurial journey is nothing short of extraordinary. In 2007, she found herself running by a homeless shelter in Philadelphia, and had the foresight to realize that running and community could be the catalyst to truly change lives. She engaged the shelter to start a running club, which she quickly transformed into a national non-profit called Back on My Feet. The organization, now with an $8M annual budget, uses running as a vehicle to help those experiencing homelessness become empowered to change their lives. Under Anne’s leadership as CEO, she grew the organization to 14 cities. Since its inception, Back on My Feet has helped thousands of individuals achieve employment and more self-sufficient living.
But Anne didn’t stop there. She created success again when she founded pilates-inspired [solidcore] in 2013. As its founder and CEO, she grew it into one of the country’s most successful fitness companies in less than a decade by raising more than $200M through private equity to scale it to more than 115 locations across the U.S.
The company currently has thousands of employees and hundreds of thousands of clients across 30 states, including former First Lady Michelle Obama Anne successfully exited [solidcore] in April 2023 and shared millions with her employees after the sale.
Connect with Anne:

📱 Instagram: @annemahlum
💼 LinkedIn: Anne Mahlum
🌐 solidcore.co
Stay connected with me
📧 Contact: courtney@smoothmedia.co
👍 Instagram: @courtlynnjohnson
💼 LinkedIn: Courtney Johnson
🎶 TikTok: @courtney..johnson

This week on Slay The Gatekeeper, I sit down with Bill Perkins, investor, author of Die With Zero, and one of the most interesting thinkers on risk, courage, and intentional living.
Bill has spent decades around millionaires, billionaires, and people who take massive bets in life and business. In this conversation, he shares the success pattern he sees over and over again at the top: agency, speed, and the courage to move.
We talk about why ideas fail, how ego keeps people small, and why most adults fear looking foolish more than they fear wasting their entire life. Bill also shares the “minimize regret” framework he uses to make big decisions, the habit ultra-successful people rely on to stay in motion, and why he thinks you should spend money when the memory value is highest, not when your bank account looks the best.
If you’ve ever found yourself stuck, overthinking, or dipping your toe instead of going all in, this conversation is a wake-up call to bet on yourself while you still have time left on the clock.
02:10 The success pattern Bill sees in every millionaire: agency, speed, and action
04:40 Why ideas fail: the people who win are the ones who move
08:05 Toe-dippers vs. all-in people — the courage gap
10:45 Ego risk: the real reason people stay small
14:20 Bill’s “future self” test for making hard decisions
17:55 Starting from zero: what Bill would do at 25 with $500
24:30 Why people secretly love failure (and how it validates their own fear)
33:50 Thinking about death as a tool for intentional living
53:05 Memory dividends: spend money when the value is highest
59:20 The fear of wasting your life vs. the fear of running out of money
About Bill Perkins
Bill Perkins is an investor, entrepreneur, and author best known for his book Die With Zero and his unconventional approach to money, risk, and fulfillment. Nicknamed the “Natural Gas King” and “Cowboy of Wall Street,” Bill built his career trading energy markets and is the founder and managing partner of Skylar Capital.
He’s also backed and built companies across tech and media, including SkyFi and SynMax, and has produced several feature films. Beyond business, Bill is heavily involved in philanthropy and lives in Texas with his wife, Lara, and his daughters, Skye and Brisa.
Connect with Bill:

📱 Instagram: @billperkins
📘 Die With Zero: diewithzerobook.com
🌐 SkyFi: skyfi.com/
Stay connected with me
📧 Contact: courtney@smoothmedia.co
👍 Instagram: @courtlynnjohnson
💼 LinkedIn: Courtney Johnson
🎶 TikTok: @courtney..johnson