Sitting In Podcast | Ep. 026 - Luke Detraz | Luke Detraz is a pastor at Oasis Community Church in Arizona, a husband, a father, and an author. His book, The War for Men, details personal stories, practical advice, and encouragement to slow down and resolve the war inside.

In today's episode, you can expect to learn:

- Why the restaurant industry and ministry are more similar than you'd expect

- Luke's take on why young men are struggling so badly today and a few ways to start fixing it

- Why people are like filing cabinets

- What makes "humility" like a dam

and much more!

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00:00 Intro - Luke Detraz

00:20 How Different is the restaurant industry than pastoral ministry?

02:30 Bartending vs Pastoring a Church

04:13 Why are young men struggling so badly today?

07:37 You can't tame a man, only break him

10:23 People are like hard drives (or filing cabinets)

12:26 Why is porn like drinking saltwater?

15:04 The modern world gets the male/female relationship wrong

20:30 Being a Creator, not a Consumer

22:22 Be the light of the world

24:51 Downfall doesn't arrive with a bang

27:56 You have a purpose and a role (and it's specific!)

29:42 Advice to better hear the Holy Spirit in your life

33:44 Obedience is super unpopular... why?

36:44 Humility is like a dam

38:03 The Worst Year of Luke's Life

45:23 Reflecting on The Worst Year of your Life (Weak Foundations)

48:50 No wasted seasons

52:04 Society's version of a 'real man'

53:50 The sneaky way(s) men get tricked into thinking they're a real man

55:43 Isolation vs Solitude

01:01:17 Dedicating Time to 'Not Me'

01:06:29 What would Luke beg a young person to do differently if they were about to live a life very similar to his?

David Nichols is a Christian, a husband, and the owner (with his wife) of CrossFit Flower Mound. He's ran the gym since 2008, and has learned what it takes to grow a business, teach people how to live healthier lives, and manage the difficulties of all types of relationships.

In this episode, you can expect to learn:

- Why David's life is like a roundabout

- Whether patience and passivity are similar

- The importance of the dinner table

and much, much, more!

Check out CrossFit Flower Mound at crossfitflowermound.com and @cfflowermound on Instagram!

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00:00 Opportunities are the backbone of a healthy perspective

02:29 What does opportunity mean?

03:52 Coaching youth baseball as a vehicle to inspire growth

05:28 Foolishness can become a life lesson with the right guidance

17:02 1X10 doesn't equal 10X1... 2+2=4 isn't always the right analogy

19:05 Patience vs Passivity

24:19 Don't chase an impossible goal, provide something life-giving

28:07 Misunderstandings because David owns a CrossFit gym

30:47 Joy and Health are not mutually exclusive

32:52 Why is our society so wrapped up in "speed"

34:06 Family Dinners create stability

37:13 The dinner table can be treated as a safe place for kids

39:32 Realizing your kids are growing up... reframing their age

45:08 Parenting is the most selfless relationship (outside of marriage)

47:57 The importance of self awareness

50:30 Unspoken expectations are premeditated resentments (Neil Strauss quote!!)

53:11 Parallel between relationship dynamics and running a gym (serving)

55:17 Service vs Enslavement

57:09 Selfishness makes it hard to share the gospel

59:17 The story behind the moment the weight of ownership hit David and Lindsey

01:06:40 (the exact moment)

01:10:39 Reaping what you sow and creating opportunities to change people's minds about stereotypes

01:13:25 Managing a person who's transitioning interested in joining the gym

01:18:47 Exemplifying the love of Christ through the two examples

01:20:25 Shortest coaching tenure the gym has had (the importance of having a good process, the bus analogy)

01:24:33 Managing the "fallout" of letting someone go

01:25:50 What makes a community real

01:30:42 The depth of common vulnerability through the lens of our differences

01:32:48 What our cultures gets wrong about strength

01:37:27 The Screwdriver Analogy

01:40:08 If a young person was about to live a life similar to David's, what would he beg them to do differently?

Saurabh Aggarwal is the founder of FractalKX and XPLeague, two of his many ventures in the Esports industry. He's revolutionizing this emerging industry by focusing on player development instead of just sponsorships, and integrating AI into those funnels.

In this episode, expect to learn:

- Why the industry of Esports shouldn't be ignored for business lessons

- Just how important the people within a system are (not just the system itself)

- Why AI is like your kitchen pantry

- What makes organic growth so powerful

and much, much more!

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00:00 How Does a CRM Consultant Turn into a Founder?

03:01 Where Did the ESports Interest Come From?

05:45 Where ESports is Missing the Point

08:45 What's the Biggest Frustration, 1 Year In?

10:49 How to Be Both Early and Right

13:57 What is Something That Your Competitors Miss?

17:08 The Importance of the People In Your System

22:01 Why Organic Growth is Key (Steve Jobs is a good example!)

25:18 Who is the "Customer" for ESports?

26:54 Pivoting - Why GGLife has Changed Three Times

30:22 Why AI is Like Your Kitchen Pantry

33:43 3 Steps to Change The Way You Use AI

36:46 A Recurring Problem in FractalKX and XPLeague (Capital Strategy)

38:24 Service vs Product Capital Strategy

41:13 Customer Misunderstandings

44:24 Saurabh Will Still Believe This is 10 Years

46:58 Do This Sooner than Saurabh Did!