Short episode summary

We've all done it. We say, "I should have done this," or " I should have done that." But really, we're shoulding all over ourselves. Tune in now, to learn what this means and how it can hurt your mindset.

Timestamps of big takeaways

[00:14] I want to share something I've been coaching running clients on

[0027] I coach runners on mindset with my running coach partner Valerie Hunt

[00:48] Interestingly enough, mindset has a lot to do with many aspects of life, and it's part of why I became a life coach

[01:30] A topic we discussed recently with our running clients is the idea of "shoulding on yourself" - and it carries into more than just running - "I should have done this or that…"

[02:24] What you do isn't what we're talking about - it's about how you feel about what you do

[02:55] Don't "should" on yourself or on your friends because it doesn't feel good

[03:20] I share an example of a friend shoulding on another friend

[04:12] Someone shoulding on you, can be triggering

[05:10] What do you do when someone makes you feel triggered by shoulding on you?

[06:00] I challenge you to look at how you speak to yourself or others

[06:29] At the same time, you can choose to take someone's words as encouraging too

[07:19] Really look at the words you're using this week, and just see what comes out of it.

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https://carolinebjorkquist.com/

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