We talk to Karen Gordon, our couples therapist, about the health of our actual relationship. We've been seeing her for over three years, and in some ways, she knows us better than our friends and family. We talk with her about our conflict cycle, specific issues we've worked with her on in the past, and the issues we are working with her on now. At the end of the episode, Maxson and Emily ask if we need to "fix" everything before we should get married or have a child.

We talk to Miles and Elektra, a legally married polyamorous couple, about what marriage means when it's not grounded in sexual exclusivity. They make the case that non-monogamy actually strengthens their commitment: loving others keeps their lives fresh, and building their marriage on shared values instead of exclusivity gives them a sturdier foundation when conflict arises. We also learn that Elektra is planning a "fourgy," aka, a fortieth birthday play party, for Miles at their favorite venue. At the end of the episode, Maxson and Emily reflect: what values do we ground our own relationship in?

We talk to Julia Funke, an immigration lawyer, about if getting married will help Emily get Maxson's EU citizenship. We also talk about the "love test," which is how the government figures out if you have a real relationship and sometimes involves sending more-than-intimate texts from your personal life to an immigration officer. At the end of the episode, Maxson and Emily go through the primary sources of their life that they would share with the government to prove the legitimacy of their love.