Stop the Reply All: Building a Compassionate Email Culture*

"A 'Reply All' loop isn't just an annoyance—it's a symptom of a culture that lacks compassion."

In this episode of Better Every Shift, we dive into the digital "human factors" that either build trust or make us want to "punch the screen". We often use email as proof that we’ve "done the work," but with 50% of emails being misinterpreted and 70% of mobile emails being deleted if they look like an essay, our habit of overproducing text is actually counter-productive.

Naomi and Tubi explore how to move away from "batting the ball across the fence" for a quick dopamine hit of closure and toward communication that actually solves problems. From mastering the **Minto Pyramid** to knowing when to ditch the keyboard for a phone call, this shift is about reclaiming your time and treating your colleagues' inboxes with empathy.

Key Discussion Points

The Overproduction Trap: Why "bigger isn't better" when it comes to professional writing and why managers stop reading after the first two sentences.
The Minto Pyramid: How to structure your emails so the most important information is at the top, followed by themes, and leaving the data for the attachments.
Warmth vs. Competence: Applying Vanessa Van Edwards’ research to your inbox—balancing a friendly tone with a concise, clear structure that shows you can "get shit done".
The "Preference Conversation": Why you must ask your manager how they want to receive information and what specifically "keeps them up at night".
Stopping the "Rogue" Email Cycles: Using BCC transparently to kill "Reply All" loops before they start, and why "sneaky" CC-ing is a symptom of poor feedback culture.
Visceral Responses to Digital Tags: Why red exclamation marks and "Important" tags can actually make people work slower—not faster.
Email vs. Phone Call: The "one-back-and-forth" rule: if a resolution hasn't been reached after one reply, it’s time to pick up the phone.

By the end of this shift, you will have a practical toolkit to transform your digital presence. You’ll learn how to write emails that get a "yes" on the first try, how to protect your manager from a clogged inbox, and how to use digital tools to build a warmer, more effective team culture.

The Minto Pyramid Principle by Barbara Minto.
Vanessa Van Edwards’ Ted Talk: On Warmth, Competence, and hand presence.
HBDI (Herrmann Brain Dominance Instrument): Understanding your communication preferences.
The Better Every Shift Compassionate Email GEM

Think of a great email like **sex education for a five-year-old**. You don't start with the full anatomy; you give a small amount of clear information, wait for a question, and then answer that question directly. In the same way, don't drown a senior leader in a "grand novel" of data—give them the key point and wait to see if they need the attachments.

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