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Aylin Villalobos knew how to fight.

As a former MMA fighter and coach, she trained to protect herself—and others. But at 18, she entered a relationship that would slowly take control of her life.

In this episode of She Fights with Heather Winkeljohn, Aylin shares how a relationship with an older fighter and coach became emotionally controlling and deeply damaging—despite everything she knew about strength, discipline, and self-defense.

Now 26, Aylin reflects on her path forward: the impact on her identity, her confidence, and her ability to return to the cage—and the work it takes to rebuild.

This is not just a story about fighting.

It’s about recognizing red flags, reclaiming your voice, and understanding that strength doesn’t always look the way we expect.

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If you or someone you know may be in a controlling or abusive relationship, you’re not alone. You can reach the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.

• Services are free and confidential.
• They can assist with safety planning, resources, and emotional support.
• If immediate danger exists, call 911 first.

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She Fights is a podcast about resilience, recovery, and the strength it takes to rebuild after adversity.

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Disclaimer:
This episode is shared for educational and storytelling purposes only and is not intended to replace professional therapy, counseling, or medical care. Heather Winkeljohn is not a licensed therapist or mental health professional. The views and experiences shared by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect the views of Heather Winkeljohn or She Fights or UnstoppableVoicesMedia.com. If you are struggling, we encourage you to seek support from a qualified professional.

If you are in crisis or thinking about self-harm, contact your local emergency services or, in the U.S., call/text the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline — available 24/7, free and confidential.

New Life Ministries (website), a Christian counseling and support ministry providing faith-based care and resources to those in need.