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You really are not as bad as yo think you are. Honestly!

Your sense of who you really are has gone adrift. Try the exercise in today's video, to reclaim right perspectives over time.

Self compassion is needed - toward self. Don't be that hard on yourself. Too much self chastisement and insufficient praise and acknowledgement of an achievement, has enhanced that self deprecation. Stop it now!

Do the exercise for at least 30 days. Get to know you. Get to like you. Get to like you. The glass is half full and not always half empty - in your thinking.

Become more self compassionate and therefore, more self caring. You are worth it. You deserve it.

You really cannot love your close other, at the level that you think you do, if you don't love yourself first! Challenge me on that one!

We need to get you to a place of "Mirror, mirror on the wall, who is the fairest of them all. Well it's me of course". (And you say it with a smile). Ok - I will let go of forcing you to say it with a smile - to start with, but it needs to come.

Begin the exercise described and be faithful in practising it for at least 30 days - consistently.

Take small incremental steps. The Kairos Centre does not work with quick fixes; otherwise quickly in, quickly undone and out. Rather - let's see 'here a little; there a little; a little bit here and a little bit there". Remember the Pothole poem:

A poem by Portia Nelson: There's a Hole in My Sidewalk: The Romance of Self- Discovery

Verse I: I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk I fall in. I am lost ... I am helpless. It isn't my fault. It takes forever to find a way out.

Verse II: I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don't see it. I fall in again. I can't believe I am in the same place. But, it isn't my fault. It still takes a long time to get out.

Verse III: I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it is there. I still fall in ... it's a habit ... but, my eyes are open. I know where I am. It is my fault. I get out immediately.

Verse IV: I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it.

Verse V: I walk down another street.

Get some help from The Kairos Centre. See what you cannot see. Begin to change that which you begin to better understand.

Bringing colour back to life - without Shame.

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