When my friend Kate (not her real name) broke down on the phone to me three weeks into managing her father's estate, and the line she said that I have heard from a hundred women: "I'm doing all this and I haven't even looked at my own super in years." I had one thought!

There's a phrase doing the rounds; eldest daughter syndrome! It's funny on Instagram until you realise the finance industry has been tracking the same thing for years, and it has some really scary implications for our generation.

JBWere call it the oldest daughter effect. When wealth transfers in an Australian family, it's the eldest daughter who is most likely to end up managing the estate - roughly 50% more likely than other siblings. She didn't ask for it. She's just the one everyone already trusts to deal with things.

In this episode, we unpack what happens when the woman who has carried everyone, suddenly has to carry the money too. We look at the largest intergenerational wealth transfer in Australian history — somewhere between $3.5 and $5 trillion and the staggering fact that about 65% of it is heading into the hands of women. Most of whom have never been the financial decision-maker in their own lives. If we want the world to change we need to understand what this means.

We talk about the three disasters that no one talks about and drain inherited wealth: the wrong-beneficiary super, the death-benefits tax mistake, and the inherited adviser nobody chose. We walk through five things you can do this week to step out of the eldest-daughter trap and into your own financial authority, including the one nobody tells you about: breaking the silence.

This is the episode to send to your sister, your mother, your daughter, and the friend who has been carrying it all alone because taking this on gives us the opportunity to impact the world.

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