If you've been told to "wait for rock bottom" or use "tough love" with someone struggling with addiction, this episode will change everything you thought you knew. Master Addiction Counselor Amber Hollingsworth reveals why the most common advice given to families is not just ineffective—it's dangerous. Discover the proven "Invisible Intervention" method that's helping thousands of families support their loved ones without enabling, confrontation, or becoming the bad guy.

🎙️ ABOUT THIS EPISODE

You're exhausted. You've tried everything. Ultimatums, confrontations, begging, threatening, and nothing works. Your loved one keeps using despite losing jobs, relationships, health, and freedom. Everyone says "let them hit rock bottom" but you're watching them die. What if there's a better way?

In this raw and revelatory conversation, Amber Hollingsworth (LMAC, Master Licensed Addiction Counselor with 20+ years experience) dismantles the most harmful myths in addiction recovery and shares practical strategies that actually work. If you're a family member, spouse, parent, or friend of someone with addiction—this is the episode you've been searching for.

👤 GUEST EXPERT: AMBER HOLLINGSWORTH

Amber is a Master Licensed Addiction Counselor (LMAC) and Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) who has dedicated over two decades to helping individuals and families navigate the complexities of addiction. She's the creator of the revolutionary "Put the Shovel Down" method and founder of Family Recovery Academy, where she's helped thousands of families worldwide. With over 1,000 educational videos on YouTube and a unique perspective shaped by growing up in a family affected by addiction, Amber brings both professional expertise and deep personal understanding to this conversation.

🔑 WHAT YOU'LL LEARN

- Why "waiting for rock bottom" is the most dangerous myth in addiction recovery—and what the research actually shows about motivation and consequences

- The critical difference between natural consequences and punishment (this one distinction changes everything about how you approach helping your loved one)

- How to help high-functioning addicts who maintain jobs, relationships, and appearances while slowly destroying themselves internally

- The "Invisible Intervention" technique—a step-by-step method to build influence and support

⏱️ KEY TIMESTAMPS

00:00 - Why Everything You Know About Helping Addicts Is Wrong

01:14 - The Rock Bottom Myth: Why Waiting Is Dangerous

03:10 - Consequences vs. Punishment: The Game-Changing Difference

07:00 - High-Functioning Addicts: The Hidden Crisis

12:08 - The Invisible Intervention Method Explained Step-by-Step

14:20 - It's Not Codependency—It's Betrayal Trauma

20:04 - Decoding the Sorry Cycle and Manipulation Tactics

24:11 - Setting Boundaries That Actually Stick

27:35 - The Compassionate Response to Relapse

30:00 - Understanding Triggers Without Enabling

36:48 - Addiction and Trauma: Exploring the Real Connection

39:22 - Can Someone Overcome Addiction Alone?

43:53 - Taking Your Power Back: Action Steps to Start Today

🔗 CONNECT WITH AMBER

YouTube: Put The Shovel Down (1,000+ free educational videos) https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCT8PE1v0xFR9zLXOijxM6hg

Website: Family Recovery Academy - https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online

Programs: Invisible Intervention Training, Family Support Courses

🆘 CRISIS RESOURCES

If you or someone you love is in crisis:

- 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (call or text)

- SAMHSA National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)

- Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741

⚠️ DISCLAIMER

This podcast provides educational information and personal experiences for informational purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of qualified healthcare providers regarding substance use disorders, mental health concerns, or medical conditions. If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency, call 911 immediately.

The feelings you're running from aren't trying to destroy you—they're trying to SAVE you. In this raw, unfiltered episode, Jason sits down with Duane (15 years sober) who reveals the shocking truth about why "positive thinking" and spiritual bypassing are actually keeping people stuck in addiction and relapse.

This isn't another motivational speech. This is actionable wisdom from someone who worked in a BAR for over a decade after getting sober—serving alcohol every single day—and was never once tempted to drink.

KEY TOPICS COVERED:

- Why resistance to emotions creates MORE suffering than the emotions themselves

- The "spiritual bypassing" trap that 99% of addicts fall into (and how to escape)

- Duane's life-changing "pool moment" after 6 months of daily prayer

- How to rewire your brain in 21 days using neuroscience (Dr. Caroline Leaf's method)

- The simple "I am aware" technique that creates instant emotional freedom

- Why working in a bar for 10 years AFTER getting sober was possible

- The difference between "sounding pretty" and actually feeling your feelings

- Teal Swan's shadow work and emotional experiencing techniques

- Matt Kahn's "Whatever arises, love that" philosophy explained

- The Appreciation Game practice for shifting emotional states

- Eckhart Tolle's teachings on present moment awareness applied to recovery

- How to use prayer as a neuroplasticity tool

EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:

"I worked in a bar for over a decade serving liquor every day and was never tempted to drink. The obsession was completely removed." - Duane

"There's a very big difference between sounding pretty and feeling the feelings. The sounding pretty is the spiritual bypass." - Duane

"If I have one foot in the past and one foot in the future, I'm pissing all over today." - Recovery Wisdom

"We have 60,000 thoughts a day - that's 60,000 opportunities to practice being our best self." - Duane

DUANE'S MIRACLE "POOL MOMENT":

For 6 months, Duane said this prayer with every step he took: "God, relieve me of this obsession." Working as a landscaper, cleaning pools, he repeated this prayer hundreds of times daily. Then one day by a pool, he fell to his knees crying—not from pain, but from realizing he hadn't thought about drinking in TWO WEEKS. The obsession was gone. This is the power of surrender combined with neuroscience.

UNDERSTANDING SPIRITUAL BYPASSING:

Spiritual bypassing is using spiritual concepts to avoid psychological work. In recovery this looks like:

- "Just think positive" instead of processing grief

- "Everything happens for a reason" to avoid accountability

- "Good vibes only" while suppressing real emotions

- Excessive meditation to escape uncomfortable feelings

- Using spiritual texts to intellectualize instead of feel

THE ANTIDOTE: Practice saying "I am AWARE of anger" instead of "I AM angry." This creates observer consciousness, allowing you to learn from emotions rather than be controlled by them.

ACTIONABLE PRACTICES YOU CAN START TODAY:

1. The "I Am Aware" Technique - Create space between you and your emotions

2. The Prayer Walk - Repeat a powerful prayer with every step for 21-90 days

3. The Appreciation Game - Spend 5 minutes listing everything you appreciate

4. The 21-Day Thought Detox - Rewire one toxic pattern using Dr. Leaf's process

WHO THIS EPISODE IS FOR:

✓ Anyone struggling with addiction, alcoholism, or substance abuse

✓ People in early sobriety or recovery feeling stuck

✓ Those dealing with anxiety, depression, or emotional regulation

✓ Anyone who's relapsed and doesn't know why

✓ Loved ones trying to understand addiction and recovery

✓ People using "positive thinking" to avoid real emotions

This episode combines spiritual wisdom with neuroscience to provide ACTIONABLE HOPE for your recovery journey. Whether you're struggling with alcohol, drugs, behavioral addictions, or just feeling stuck in life,

In this raw and transformative episode of "Recovered Addict: A Journey Within," hosts Duane Yardman-Frank and Jason Rigby dive deep into the spiritual roots of addiction, revealing it not as a moral failing but as a profound cry for connection. They challenge traditional recovery narratives by spotlighting the spiritual void that fuels addictive cycles, regardless of the substance or behavior.

Drawing heavily on the profound teachings of spiritual teacher Matt Kahn, Duane and Jason explore how radical self-acceptance and spiritual awakening can pave the path to true freedom beyond mere sobriety.

Key Discussion Points:

• The Spiritual Void: Understand addiction as a "God-sized hole" within, an insatiable hunger that external achievements, pleasures, or distractions can never truly fill.

• Consummatory vs. Intrinsic Reward: Discover the two brain reward systems and how addiction traps individuals in the cycle of "consummatory reward," while spiritual development offers "intrinsic reward" and lasting purpose.

• Matt Kahn's Core Mantra: "Whatever Arises, Love That": Learn how this powerful mantra is an invitation to meet excruciating cravings, shame, guilt, and emotional pain with radical acceptance and unconditional love, transforming internal struggle into a spiritual path.

• The Ego as "WAR" (Worry, Anticipation, Regret): Explore Matt Kahn's acronym for ego and how this "war in the mind" manifests in addiction, driving constant seeking of external validation and temporary relief.

• Integrating the Ego for Freedom: Discover how the ego is not an adversary to be eradicated but an integral part of the human form that, when integrated with spirit, can empower individuals to say "no" to destructive patterns and play for "higher stakes". The Ganesh and mouse analogy beautifully illustrates this serving relationship between ego and divinity.

• The Gifts of Space and Time: Learn how cultivating inner spaciousness and making peace with the present moment can unravel deep-seated trauma and align you with your higher self, offering a "window of grace" for healing.

• Innate Worthiness: Reframe recovery not as a battle to become worthy, but as realizing the profound truth that you always were worthy, just as God sees you, regardless of past actions. This understanding allows for the healing of core unworthiness that fuels addictive behaviors.

Actionable Takeaways:

• Confront suffering directly rather than evading or suppressing it, seeing it as a path to service and rebirth.

• Practice mindfulness and sense perceptions to exit the "mind chatter" of worry and honor the present moment.

• Embrace the mantra "Whatever Arises, Love That" for radical acceptance of all emotions, including cravings and shame.

• Recognize that love is not bound by time or space and can bend dimensions, connecting you to infinite abundance and higher purpose.

Connect with Us: If you're interested in transforming your life and embarking on a long-term recovery journey, delve deeper into these tools.

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