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  • 177 - 7 Healing Truths That Can Keep You Stuck in Recovery

    177 - 7 Healing Truths That Can Keep You Stuck in Recovery
    2026/07/15
    In this weeks episode Kylene and Patrick are talking about 7 phrases used through healing and recovery that are beneficial and true, AND can be misapplied or misinterpreted to hinder healing. See how these statements...
    1. You can’t control your partners recovery
    2. Healing isn't linear turns into
    3. Boundaries are about how you respond-
    4. Addiction is a trauma response
    5. Forgiveness is good for the person who forgives
    6. I’m trusting God
    7. The enemy is attacking me
    can be true.... or can be slowing you down in your recovery journey. As always, take what works for you and delete the rest. We hope this podcast offers some food for thought as you continue your healing journey!

    If would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

    Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com

    Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:

    https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course

    Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8

    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2

    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources

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  • 176 - Are Male Brains Just Wired to Cheat?

    176 - Are Male Brains Just Wired to Cheat?
    2026/07/08
    In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick are answering a listener's question regarding male brains. Are they really that different from female brains? Can they really not help themselves? Can they CHANGE? They share how no, male female brains are not really different, however, societal shaping HAS treated men differently than women. When we are taught that this is just "normal" and "boys will be boys" they are not taught self control but instead are taught an activated way of viewing women that is unhealthy. Can they change? Absolutely. Listen to this episode to hear Kylene and Patrick break this down. You may also enjoy our previous episodes: 127 Noticing vs Arousal: When is attraction too much?: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-betrayal-recovery-porn-addiction/id1674653111?i=1000720874791 Episode 128 BONUS: Is Attraction the same as Lusting?: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-betrayal-recovery-porn-addiction/id1674653111?i=1000721175129 Article that Kylene mentioned in this episode regarding the meta-analysis:

    https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/men-not-more-visual-or-easily-aroused-than-women-research-shows

    f would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

    Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com

    Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:

    https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course

    Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8

    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2

    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources
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    53 分
  • 175 - Moving Through the Stuck Phase of Recovery with Marcy Middleton

    175 - Moving Through the Stuck Phase of Recovery with Marcy Middleton
    2026/07/01
    Marcy Middleton is currently working on her undergraduate degree in Applied Psychology with a minor in Biblical Studies. She serves as the Sexual Formation Deacon along with her husband at her home church in Bend, Oregon. She has led in-person groups at her home church for 3 years and also loves helping lead worship as a volunteer. In today's episode Marcy shares talks about mid recovery. That place after discovery, after safety where couples begin to reintegrate their lives and relationship - where communication and rebuilding trust is crucial and.....where many people get...stuck. She shares how and why people can hit points of stagnation in their recovery and healing journeys and some important things to keep in mind to keep your health, life and relationship moving forward (like having a clear vision and goal, and learning healthy conflict!)

    If would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

    Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com

    Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:

    https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course

    Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8

    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2

    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources
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    47 分
  • 174 - Choosing the Life You Want to Live

    174 - Choosing the Life You Want to Live
    2026/06/24
    In today's episode Kylene and Patrick discuss the idea of choosing the life you live. So much of our choices are made subconsciously by programs running in the background that have been created in our life through family systems, painful moments, and our brains trying to make sense out of life... Healing means identifying the patterns and consciously choosing the patterns we want to keep or release and making decisions about who we want to be and what we want to consciously bring into your lives moving forward. In today's episode they offer examples as well as offering 3 questions to help you think through your goals moving forward:
    1. What are the things I want to bring into my life
    2. Are there any steps I can take not to move toward some of those things - sometimes that means starting to say no to relationships that are more draining than energizing - changing a job- adding a hobby, taking a lesson - trying a new workout - setting up friend dates
    3. What is my values list that I can use to when I feel conflicted to help me make decisions
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    57 分
  • 173 - Reflections on Parenting and Recovery with Patrick

    173 - Reflections on Parenting and Recovery with Patrick
    2026/06/17
    This week Patrick takes some time to reflect on recovery, parenting, and Keegan's graduation. There are so many gifts that deep recovery work gives you including better relationships with yourself, with your children and with others. Kylene and Patrick are so appreciative of the work they have done that has increased emotional maturity, communication, and safety within relationships. We wish that same gift for you though this process. Book - Emotionally Healthy Spirituality: https://a.co/d/08JhLXTO

    If would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

    Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com

    Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:

    https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course

    Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8

    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2

    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources

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    37 分
  • 172 - Listener Q&A: Questions From Betrayed Partners

    172 - Listener Q&A: Questions From Betrayed Partners
    2026/06/10
    In todays episode Kylene answers listener submitted questions and discusses things like:
    • What's the role of the betrayed partner?
    • What level of guardrails should we set up- should the betrayed partner have access to all the passwords?
    • What are the empathy and restitution letters?
    • What if the addict is doing the "right things" but feels resentful?

    If would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

    Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com

    Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:

    https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course

    Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8

    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2

    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources

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    34 分
  • 171 - The Marriage You Want vs. The Marriage You Were Taught with Sheila Gregoire

    171 - The Marriage You Want vs. The Marriage You Were Taught with Sheila Gregoire
    2026/06/03
    Sheila Gregoire is the author of 11 books including the Great Sex Rescue and The Marriage You Want. She hosts the Bare Marriage podcast and you can connect with her and her resources at https://baremarriage.com A few things we discuss in todays episode:
    • Sheilas statement in her book "The Marriage you want" - 'The problem with sex in Christian relationships isn't so much the absence of good teaching; it's the presence of bad teaching"
    • What should sex in marriage be
    • The messages women receive that even when their husband is doing something wrong, the wife can solve it herself by praying harder or being a better wife
    • Women shocked by betrayal from porn or infidelity being labeled codependent versus traumatized victims
    • The role of pastors versus professionals and how can we get better messaging into the church
    • What should a Christian marriage really be/feel like?
    Find her books here: https://baremarriage.com/books-2/

    If would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

    Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com

    Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:

    https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course

    Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8

    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2

    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources

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    54 分
  • 170 - Radical Self Acceptance at Every Age

    170 - Radical Self Acceptance at Every Age
    2026/05/27

    In this episode Kylene shares her history of body image issues, how she has chosen to work towards radically accepting herself at everyone, and what that looks like in terms of her thinking and mindsets around aging.

    Image and comparison is a common trigger for many betrayed partners. We hope this episode is encouraging and reminds you that you are valuable, worthy and beautiful exactly as you are!

    If would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

    Learn more at www.RecoverUcoaching.com

    Check out the What's NEXT course for newly betrayed partners:

    https://recoverucoaching.com/whats-next-course

    Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8

    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2

    Resources for Healing: https://recoverucoaching.com/resources

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    54 分