In this powerful and compassionate episode of Coached Soul, Dr. Steve Hudgins sits down with relationship expert Mr. Jay to unpack one of the most painful experiences couples face: infidelity and the work of rebuilding trust.

Together, they explore the emotional aftermath of betrayal - guilt, shame, confusion, self-doubt - and how these internal battles shape the healing process. Mr. Jay offers practical, actionable tools that anyone can begin using immediately, including creating a Needs Assessment List, setting consistent check-in dates, and learning how to show trustworthiness through sustained action rather than promises.

You’ll discover:

• The difference between guilt and shame (and why it matters)
• How to rebuild self-trust before rebuilding relational trust
• Why structure and consistency are essential for recovery
• How self-love becomes the foundation for emotional repair
• How both partners can create patterns of safety, transparency, and honesty
• Why healing after infidelity is not only possible—but probable with the right approach

Whether you’re at the painful beginning of discovery, struggling with ongoing triggers, or working to rebuild a connection with your partner, this episode offers a roadmap toward clarity, compassion, and genuine transformation.

🎧 Listen now to learn how to rebuild trust from the inside out and turn one of life’s deepest wounds into an opportunity for growth and reconnection

Key Moments:

01:14 "Infidelity: Moral Choice vs Hijack"

05:56 Healing and Rebuilding Trust

08:33 "Trusting Yourself: A Litmus Test"

13:11 Forgiveness Equals Self-Love

16:21 Unspoken Needs in Relationships

19:41 Post-Affair Recovery Essentials

22:32 "Healing Journey Check-In Strategy"

24:51 "Intimacy: Key to Overcoming Addiction"

About the guest :

Mr. Jay spent years helping people and couples navigate tough emotional terrain, even coaching many through panic attacks. He considered himself knowledgeable, though he’d never actually felt a panic attack himself. Everything changed after losing a close friend - one day laughing together over the phone, and just four days later, saying goodbye at the graveside. Only days after that, Mr. Jay woke up gripped by his first-ever panic attack. In that moment, all his expertise felt different; finally, he truly understood what his clients battled each day. This experience deepened his empathy and transformed his work, proving that lived experience brings irreplaceable understanding.

How to connect Mr. Jay :

Website : https://mrjayrelationshipcoach.com/

Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/MrJayRelationshipCoach/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mrjayrelationshipcoach

Youtube : https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCih0uc3lMndCsm4BhKE8mCw/videos

Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/mrjayrelationshipcoach/

About Coached Soul™:

Coached Soul™ is an empowering podcast hosted by Dr. Steve Hudgins, a mental health professional and author, and co-hosted by Kenya Whaley, a transformational therapeutic coach. With a focus on self-improvement, Dr. Steve covers many topics, including mental health, relationships, education, and more. He fearlessly tackles sensitive subjects like depression and anxiety, creating a safe space for open conversations. They offer valuable insights and lessons through interviews with guests who have overcome significant challenges. Coached Soul is not just a podcast but a supportive community that inspires personal growth and provides the necessary resources for transformation. Their expertise and genuine approach make Coached Soul a must-listen for anyone seeking to improve their life.

For more details, visit https://coachedsoul.com/