In this episode, I look back at moments in past relationships when I thought I was being strong because I was assertive, would stand up for myself and refused to stay quiet. However, my boundaries kept getting crossed and my relationships became a cycle of arguments with no real resolution. I unpack what was really beneath all that talking and what I eventually had to change.

After my first heartbreak, I thought I was doing the right thing. I believed I was growing, becoming more self-aware and learning how to make relationships work. Looking back, I wasn't growing at all - I was shrinking.

In this episode, I share how fear disguised itself as self-improvement, how I became "the nice girl" and why trying to control the outcome of relationships only pulled me further away from the person God created me to be.

If you've ever questioned your worth after rejection or found yourself becoming smaller to keep someone else comfortable, this episode is for you.

Have you ever felt like every new relationship eventually turns into the last one?

Different man. Same disappointment. Same arguments. Same heartbreak.

In this episode, I share the hidden "script" my therapist helped me uncover - and how it was quietly shaping my dating life without me even realizing it. Once I understood that script, everything changed.

If you've ever wondered, "Why does this keep happening to me?" this episode is for you.

For years, I kept finding myself in the same painful relationship patterns, but I couldn't figure out why. In this episode, we explore the hidden patterns, beliefs and emotional wounds that keep us choosing the wrong people. Sometimes the breakthrough begins when we're willing to look within.

Have you ever looked back at a relationship and wondered, "What was I thinking?" In this episode, I share reasons I stayed in unhealthy relationships and why intelligence doesn't always protect us from making painful choices. If you've been hard on yourself, I hope this conversation brings you clarity and hope.

Why did I keep choosing the wrong relationships? In this first episode, I share my personal journey through heartbreak, codependency and painful lessons - and how God used those experiences to transform my life. If you've ever wondered whether it's too late for love, this episode is for you.

Welcome to Rebecca Has Spoken, where we have honest conversations about faith, boundaries, relationships and the wisdom to make better decisions. If you’ve ever wondered “How did I get here?” or struggled to balance kindness with having your own back, you’re in the right place.