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We accidentally took a month off... and the reason isn't dramatic. 😅

Summer with a big family happened.

Between graduations, birthdays stacked back-to-back, Fourth of July chaos, vacations, and just trying to survive the calendar, we looked up and realized an entire month had flown by. But we're back!

Before we jump into our next adoption story, I wanted to pause and recognize something that's incredibly special to our family. July 1 is our Family Gotcha Day—the day our adoptions became official. It's a reminder that even the hardest parts of foster care can lead to something incredibly beautiful.

Since Sly is at work, this episode is a solo Q&A! I'm answering some of the questions you've been sending us, including:

• What foster parent training is really like—and the moment almost everyone wonders if they should quit.
• What it feels like to take a foster child out in public and worry you'll run into biological family.
• Whether reunification ever gets easier.
• What those very first meetings with a child actually look like.
• Why the "perfect house" during agency visits is a myth.

We also get into some of the practical side of foster care and adoption, including what permanent custody (PC) really means, why court timelines can stretch on even after PC, how trauma affects behavior around holidays and visits, respite care, licensing costs, home studies, medical coverage, daycare assistance, name changes, and navigating relationships with biological families.

Whether you're a foster parent, an adoptive parent, considering taking the first step, or you're simply curious about what this journey really looks like, I hope this episode encourages you.

If you enjoy the episode, please subscribe, leave us a review, and keep sending your questions—we'd love to answer more of them in future Q&A episodes.

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