In this episode, Adam and Ashlee unpack manipulation in marriage and relationships—from subtle “shame tactics” to using outside voices to force a spouse to agree, forgive, or comply. They react to a viral moment where an Olympic athlete publicly admits cheating and frames it as a dramatic apology, and they explain why “public gestures” can sometimes be more about pressure and image than true repentance and repair.They also talk about what healthy transparency looks like versus emotional abuse, why couples often try to “prove they’re right” by pulling in friends, family, or even pastors, and how isolation (“decisions in a vacuum”) leads to even worse choices. Plus: a real-life example of how small misunderstandings can spiral, why strong marriages recover quickly, and how to pursue accountability without humiliating the person you love.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://www.instagram.com/amesa/https://www.instagram.com/ashleemesa/--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com