In this episode, we chat with Dr Zac Seidler, the global director of research at Movember and part of the team at Orygyn – a youth mental health organisation. He’s a clinical psychologist and researcher who has dedicated his career to understanding manhood and men’s mental health. And, he’s just welcomed his first son, Arty. We recorded this episode in the weeks before his baby’s birth, covering the biggest challenges men face in transitioning to fatherhood, why men need to be proactive about the parent they want to be and his reflections on becoming a dad after losing his own.

Key takeaways:

• From years of working with men as a psychologist, Zac notes that many approach fatherhood from a “I don’t want to repeat my dad’s mistakes” mindset — but struggle to articulate what they do want to be instead
• He talks about fatherhood as a rare pause point where men are open to reflection, change and meaning-making — and argues it’s a missed opportunity when health systems fail to engage dads early
• Zac shares that many men feel anxious about losing their freedom when they become dads, and that not working through that can be a risk factor for postnatal depression
• He speaks about losing his father and how becoming a dad himself has deepened that connection, bringing up grief and reflection about what kind of presence he wants to be for his own child
• Zac shares that his partner's pregnancy triggered a shift in priorities he didn’t fully expect — from being highly output-driven at work to feeling a strong urge to slow down, be practical and support his partner in very ordinary, hands-on ways
• Zac emphasises that being a “three-dimensional” dad — showing emotion, uncertainty and care — matters more than fitting any ideal of masculinity or having parenting perfectly worked out

More resources:

You can follow Zac on Instagram and see more of his work in action over at Movember.

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