Is scheduled sex sexy… or does it kill the vibe?

In this episode, I’m breaking down one of the most common (and quietly controversial) topics that shows up in long-term relationships: putting sex on the calendar. Because when life gets full—kids, careers, stress, exhaustion—spontaneity doesn’t just disappear… it gets crowded out.

So what happens when you stop waiting to “feel in the mood” and start creating the conditions for desire instead?

We’re talking about:

• Why desire naturally shifts in long-term relationships (and why nothing is “wrong” with you)

• The myth that real desire should always be spontaneous

• How scheduling intimacy can actually increase anticipation, playfulness, and connection

• The difference between sex as a feeling vs. sex as a choice

• How to reduce pressure, performance anxiety, and the fear of obligation

• Why defining sex more broadly changes everything

• Common traps couples fall into (and how to avoid them)

• Practical ways to make scheduled intimacy feel intentional—not clinical

Because here’s the truth: scheduling sex isn’t about forcing desire… it’s about making space for it. And for many couples, that shift is everything.

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Most people think desire should just show up. And when it doesn’t? They assume something’s wrong.

In this episode, Dr. Jenn Kennedy sits down with Sex Therapist Brooke Bralove to challenge one of the biggest myths about sex: that desire is supposed to be spontaneous.

Together, they unpack:

• Who actually experiences spontaneous desire (hint: fewer people than you think)
• Why long-term sex often becomes predictable—and what to do about it
• The role of novelty in keeping desire alive
• The patterns couples fall into that quietly shut things down
• What it really takes to get out of a sexual rut

Plus, Brooke shares how Accelerated Resolution Therapy can help shift the deeper emotional blocks that keep people stuck.

If your sex life feels a little too quiet, a little too routine, or like something’s missing… this conversation will change how you think about desire and what to do next.

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Perhaps you’ve questioned if you have a “libido issue,” but really it’s more of a self-abandonment problem.

In this episode, Dr. Jenn Kennedy explores how people pleasing shows up in the bedroom and quietly erodes desire. If your sex life feels tense, mismatched, or confusing… if one partner is always pursuing while the other pulls away… this conversation will challenge the assumption that it’s simply a “desire discrepancy.”

What if it’s not about libido at all?

I unpack:

• ​The subtle ways you override your body to keep the peace
• ​Say yes to avoid rejection
• ​Initiate sex to prevent abandonment
• ​Perform arousal you don’t genuinely feel
• ​How chronic adaptation leads to the disappearing self

When you disconnect from your authentic wants and limits, desire doesn’t thrive, it collapses. Adaptation may preserve the relationship in the short term, but it quietly kills erotic vitality.

If you’ve stopped knowing what you want, this episode will help you understand why, and how to begin reclaiming yourself.

🎧 Tune in now.

Other Resources:

⁠FANOS⁠: Couples Sharing Exercise

Related Episodes:

The High Desire Partner | Szn. 4 Ep. 12

Motivations for Sex | Szn. 4 Ep. 9

Wise Effort in the Bedroom w/ Dr. Diana Hill | Szn. 3 Ep. 6

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