This one is tender. And it's personal. So I'm going to be gentle with you.

Most of us are constantly looking around—at social media, neighbors, family members, even our own kids—to figure out if we're doing okay. If we're good parents. If we're worthy of the life and relationships we want.

Sometimes that shows up as a quiet comparison.
Your sibling's kid just won a game.
A friend posts about their teen's big achievement.
And suddenly you're wondering what that says about you… and your child.

And without realizing it, we tighten our grip.

More reminders.
More checking.
More "I'm just trying to help."

In this episode, I talk about one of the hardest beliefs for parents to face: that the control we use to try to keep our kids safe, successful, and on track may actually be creating the resistance and distance we're desperate to fix.

This isn't about blame. It's about relief.

If you're exhausted from being the homework police, the room inspector, the phone monitor—and secretly wishing you could just be their parent again—this conversation will help you see what's really happening underneath the struggle.

I share a client story that stopped me in my tracks, and a truth that changed everything for her relationship with her teen. Once you see it, you can't unsee it.

If closeness feels harder the more you try… this episode is for you. If you'd like to take this even deeper, and at an accelerated rate, book a free Discover your Disconnection Pattern call.

What if the thing you've been waiting for your teen to do… isn't actually the thing that has to happen first?

Most parents live in a quiet, exhausting loop of "If they would just…"
If they would just try harder.
If they would just care.
If they would just stop lying, yelling, shutting down, or blowing everything off.

We keep waiting for them to change so things can finally calm down.
And somehow, the longer we wait, the worse it gets.

In this episode, I share the belief that flipped everything on its head for me — and for hundreds of parents I've coached. It's one simple shift. One step. And it's more powerful than consequences, lectures, or waiting for a breakthrough that may never come.

This is the moment where parents stop feeling held hostage by their teen's moods… and start finding peace now, not someday.

If you're stuck in the same arguments, the same emotional ping-pong, the same painful patterns that never seem to resolve, this episode will show you a completely different way forward.

You don't need them to change first.
And once you hear why, you won't un-see it.

To work through this transition together, book a free Discover Your Disconnection Pattern call. xoxo

Welcome to a six part series, outlining the exact process to shift your parental struggles to find the connection with your teen. Today we begin with step 1: Your Future Doesn't Have to Look Like Your Past

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, "This is just what our relationship will be"… or bracing with "Here we go again" when the same fight starts up for the hundredth time?

A lot of parents quietly start believing the story that nothing can ever change. That they're too burnt out, too set in their ways, too far gone to fix what feels broken. I believed that story too—until something shifted that gave me my power back.

In this episode, I'm sharing why your future with your teen does not have to look like your past, and how real, lasting change is possible no matter how long things have been hard.

If you're stuck in the same emotional loops, repeating the same arguments, or feeling disconnected from the kid you love, this conversation will meet you right where you are.

Ready to change the pattern?
Book a free Discover Your Disconnection Call and let's talk about what's actually happening in your relationship with your teen—and what can shift from here.