In this conversation, we dig into the real challenges of parenting as Millennials—why it takes so much energy to break old patterns, self-regulate in the moment, and navigate overwhelming societal expectations. We explore the internal pressure to be exceptional parents, the exhaustion that follows, and the courage required to choose a healthier, more connected, more humane way of raising kids.

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In this conversation, we sit down with Sarah Mullis, an Adlerian counselor based in Wales, to explore why community feeling/social interest (Gemeinschaftsgefühl) is essential in the digital age. We discuss why social media’s basic architecture is fundamentally incapable of creating real belonging or mutual respect on its own — and what it actually takes to bring Social Interest into online spaces.

Sarah shares Adlerian insights on connection, courage, discouragement, and how we can show up differently to foster healthier digital communities. Whether you're a mental health professional, a creator, or simply someone navigating social media, this interview offers a grounded, hopeful perspective on how Adlerian psychology can reshape the way we relate online.

Topics include:

Why social media doesn’t naturally build community feeling Adler’s concept of Social Interest applied to digital life

How discouragement shows up online

The courage to connect

Practical ways to create healthier online spaces

About Sarah Mullis: Sarah is an Adlerian counselor in Wales and an advocate for bringing relational depth and real community values into modern digital platforms.

Follow her on Instagram @that_adlerian_therapist and on Substack at https://substack.com/@thatadleriantherapist

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Highly therapized culture has made us vulnerable to a neurotic excuse in the form of avoiding listening to the content of what another person is saying if they are not doing an excellent job in how they are saying it. This episode explores how we can go about avoiding this excuse with courage to ensure that we don't create unreasonable barriers to repair and connection in our relationships.

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In this podcast, we talk about emotional health, self-awareness, and the danger of ignoring your real needs — what Calvin calls “Emotional Scurvy.” Sometimes it’s hard to tell the difference between what we want and what we need. When we ignore our deeper, slow-burning needs, we can end up quietly malnourished — giving ourselves quick fixes instead of real nourishment. Calvin explores how to recognize those subtle needs, care for them honestly, and stay connected without slipping into selfishness or self-pity.

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In this episode, we dive into the psychological roots of fascism, defining it as the belief that "you're only in if others are out." This ideology, which thrives on discouragement and a myth of victimhood, fosters a dangerous desire for "purity" and isolation, leading to a counterfeit sense of community. We argue that the true antidote is "Gemeinschaftsgefühl," or social interest—a genuine "we-feeling altogether" built on mutual respect. We explore why an insistence on absolute agreement and the elimination of opposing voices (whether from the left or the right) leads to a bad world. Ultimately, when we forsake the Golden Rule and due process in the name of a "good result," we are winning people over not to virtue, but to force—and sacrificing the true security found only in trust and community feeling.

Many people think spoiling kids is all about giving them too much—but the real issue runs deeper. In this video, we explore how spoiling is less about overindulgence and more about a subtle, discouraging message: a vote of no confidence in a child's abilities. When we step in too much, solve every problem, or shield kids from struggle, we unintentionally send the message that they aren’t capable. Let’s rethink what it really means to ‘spoil’ a child—and how to foster true confidence instead.

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On this special holiday episode, Calvin interviews 9-year-old Truman and 7-year-old Ruby, who share their thoughts on gratitude, what adults get wrong, and how they are growing and improving in life.

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In this episode, Calvin & Lindsay discuss ways of understanding and conceptualizing addiction, with the help of friend/colleague Jim Holder. Addiction is discussed in terms of its purpose in helping people to solve problems (however maladaptive the solution may be!).

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