Perhaps you’ve questioned if you have a “libido issue,” but really it’s more of a self-abandonment problem.

In this episode, Dr. Jenn Kennedy explores how people pleasing shows up in the bedroom and quietly erodes desire. If your sex life feels tense, mismatched, or confusing… if one partner is always pursuing while the other pulls away… this conversation will challenge the assumption that it’s simply a “desire discrepancy.”

What if it’s not about libido at all?

I unpack:

• ​The subtle ways you override your body to keep the peace
• ​Say yes to avoid rejection
• ​Initiate sex to prevent abandonment
• ​Perform arousal you don’t genuinely feel
• ​How chronic adaptation leads to the disappearing self

When you disconnect from your authentic wants and limits, desire doesn’t thrive, it collapses. Adaptation may preserve the relationship in the short term, but it quietly kills erotic vitality.

If you’ve stopped knowing what you want, this episode will help you understand why, and how to begin reclaiming yourself.

🎧 Tune in now.

Other Resources:

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The High Desire Partner | Szn. 4 Ep. 12

Motivations for Sex | Szn. 4 Ep. 9

Wise Effort in the Bedroom w/ Dr. Diana Hill | Szn. 3 Ep. 6

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