What does the data actually say about PDA autism parenting when the standard approaches are not working?

In this episode, I'm joined by Melissa McKenzie and Diane Gould from PDA North America to unpack the PDA Experience Report. It is a deeply validating conversation for parents who have felt blamed, dismissed, or pressured into strategies that do not feel safe for their child’s nervous system.

Together, they explore what thousands of families reported, including how commonly punishment and consequence-based approaches can backfire, how widespread school distress is for PDA children, and why support is never one-size-fits-all. Most of all, this episode offers relief: you are not imagining it, and you are not alone.

You'll feel extremely validated listening to this episode- full stop.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What the PDA Experience Report is, and why it matters for PDA families
• What the data suggests about punishment and consequence-based approaches
• Why school access and school distress are such common experiences in PDA
• Why therapy is not “one-size-fits-all”, and why fit and nervous system safety matter
• How PDA often overlaps with autism, ADHD, and sensory differences
• Why validation and community are protective for parent nervous systems too
• How support needs to involve the whole system around the child, not just the child

Resources mentioned:

• PDA North America website: https://pdanorthamerica.org/
• Download the PDA Experience Report: https://learn.pdanorthamerica.org/products/digital_downloads/pda-experience-survey-full-report

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