Overthinking doesn't always start with a bad thought. Sometimes it starts with silence, and your mind filling that silence with stories so convincing you forget they are stories. If you have ever spiralled over an unanswered message, an unreturned call, or a silence you could not explain, you will want to be a part of this conversation.

We all do it. A text goes unanswered. A WhatsApp message sits unread. A call doesn't get returned. And instead of staying with what we actually know, we start to believe things we have no evidence for.

In this episode I share a tool I learned from Dr. Susan David's work on emotional agility, the practice of separating facts from feelings, and what happened when I finally used it in a moment I really needed it.

This episode is about the space between learning a tool and remembering to reach for it when your chest is tight and your mind won't stop spinning.

IN THIS EPISODE YOU WILL DISCOVER

• Why overthinking escalates, how small stories become elaborate certainties over days and why your mind builds them so convincingly
• The real reason silence is so unbearable, your brain would rather have a painful answer than no answer at all
• Dr. Susan David's Facts vs Feelings practice and how to use it in the moment without a journal, an app, or perfect conditions
• What I found when I separated the facts from the feelings, and why the disproportion between the two columns changed everything
• Why forgetting your tools in the middle of the spiral is not failure, it is being human
• How the distance between the spiral starting and you remembering you have something to reach for gets shorter over time
• Why "no response is a response" might be true but attaching a story to what no response means is where the damage can happen
• What it looks like to not abandon yourself in real time, not through a big gesture, but through choosing what is actually true over what your mind has built

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