Happy Monday! Anna had this great idea for this summer on the podcast; the idea was to address questions from the Organize 365® community. I asked Anna if she thought we’d get any responses? We did. We got 70 questions in the first 24 hours. So, today we’re getting personal answering questions about my family and how I navigate incorporating my business.

Family Involvment

The question was asked about what I do when my family members don’t want to participate in organization. I reiterated many times in this episode that I think my view point now is because of my lived experience up to age 53, that I am now. As women, our roles change a lot depending on the phase of life our family is at. I am out of active parenting years, made it through menopause, and just feel less emotional more matter of fact.

In the brain, schemas are organized patterns of knowledge, or mental frameworks, used to interpret and understand the world. It’s like a repeated skill that you have mastered. So if you always make the kids lunches, organize the schedule for the family, and get the groceries, you likely have schemas for those tasks. But then you ask your husband (or kids) to step in and he doesn’t do it as well as you. He doesn’t have the years of schemas built up that you do. You’re asking the rookie to do, without training, what the World Series player normally does.

What you focus on is what grows. Focus on what your family does right. I mentioned on a side note that being an entrepreneur has afforded me luxuries that Greg doesn’t have and that makes him a little jealous. You never know the root of the negativity you get from your family. But I know my boundaries and goals and what it will take to accomplish them. And stop doing so much. Allow your family to assume some tasks like those teenage kids. Let them form schemas. OR I just focus on my areas and what I can do. I have accepted that I am only in control of myself.

What I contribute to my organizational success

There are 4 things that I can see I incorporated into my systems. Mind you first they were just systems for myself and my clients. From the Franklin Covey Planners I gained the idea of beginning with the end in mind. I liked how the Slob Sisters, who wrote Side Tracked Home Executive, had you write everything down on note cards and then there was a rotation system to keep you on track. Fly Lady had the control journal that I loved. But at the end of the day it was too many tasks eating up my day. I then decided what was the minimum I could get away with doing each day based on what could wait. And lastly, Getting Things Done by David Allen. It was good for executives but I needed something for parenting and a household manager.

And for my PhDers out there, I explained all about my organization of papers for my school work and now the dissertation.

With all of the things I do, naturally someone asked about me taking down time and getting sick. I have always been a naturally energetic person. I love to be busy with my hands. Down time for me is doing a puzzle while watching tv with Greg. I can’t even relax at the beach! And as far as getting sick. Most times, you won’t know I‘m sick till I’m back in the saddle. I deny the possibility as long as I can. But I always have peace of mind if I do get sick because I try to be a week or two ahead, in work, to prevent the cascade of everyone else completing their work. Like I’ve said before “I’m where work comes from.” Always in that ready state of preparedness. And you get to choose how you respond to situations. Your attitude is a choice.

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In this episode, I introduce you to Amanda A. who is married with three kids. Amanda found herself with compounding Golden Windows which created a little chaos in her life. She had just started back to work, went to transfer files to her dropbox and stumbled upon an old bundle she’d downloaded years prior - the Ultimate Bundle. It was exactly what she needed and her “relationship” with Organize 365® took off from there.

Amanda had tried a lot of other organizational systems but none of them seemed to be the solution. When Amanda came across the module about organizing your schedule is when she felt relief. Golden windows Amanda was experiencing were her turning 40, moving to IL., she had a baby, took care of her mom her mom, covid hit. That was the two years leading up to 2021. In 2021, August she went back to work after 4 years, in Nov. her son needed medical help, and in Dec. of 2021 she was able to get a handle of it all that fateful day when she came across the module to organize her schedule. Amanda has ADHD and while she understands getting your life under control starting with the Sunday Basket® consistently for 6 weeks, that wasn’t her.

We had such a great productive conversation about using the space in your home for the phase of life you are in. Amanda is using her dining room as her office. It’s where everything gets processed anyway so why not? I shared how “Grayson’s Room” upstairs has changed purpose over the years and as recently as a few weeks ago. When I found out Abby was pregnant I re-assessed how we need to be using that space. That’s exactly what Amanda did with her dining room and talking through it, may be Christmas Central too this December.

Amanda shared about their steak drawer. They made a drawer in their kitchen functional for when her husband or son want to make steak, which is often! Once you decide how you want to use a space, think of any obstacles you may have and problem solve. A cabinet can be used the same as a drawer or vice versa. They purchased their home from a couple who had recently became empty nesters. There were some features they would never use. One was when the beverage cooler went out. She reimagined the space with a mini fridge that now houses school lunch items. Amanda has a lot of Organize 365r products, including The Productive Home solution. She was paralyzed where to start because the members were on a different day that day 1. Amanda was skeptical that a storage space or or laundry room would stay organized. These are the spaces you start with because they stay organized the longest. So she started in their laundry room. Sure enough…she cleaned out the winter stuff, gave items homes, and to her disbelief, it stayed organized!

Amanda has more perspective by pausing and thinking about how she needs to do stuff. She likes to flit around in the programs and that suits her ADHD but compounds to be organized. And she wishes she’d known that no one is being as critical as she is about her home. She has such bad negative self talk about the state of her home at one time. But now,

Amanda’s advice is, “You can have as many redos or day 1’s as you need. When starting the Productive Home Solution, you can start where you want. And if you need to restart, do that! Planning day is like that for me every few months. Time to start over.”

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On the Wednesday podcast, I get to talk with members of the Organize 365­® community as they share the challenges, progress, missteps and triumphs along their organizing journey. I am grateful that you are reaching out to share with me and with this community. You can see and hear transformation in action. If you are ready to share your story with us, please apply at https://organize365.com/wednesday.

Yesssss, announcing Customer Appreciation Days!! This Thursday through Monday at midnight. Boy do I have some great deals for you. If you have had your eye on a product for a while now is your time to get it at 15% off. Also, there will be daily deals too!

There are videos each day to keep you in the loop of everything Organize 365®. Thursdays deals are geared towards all the new products and “while they last” products. If you feel like you have a handle on your home and work, this is the day for you.

Friday is going to feature additional deals on the Friday Workbox and coincidentally, it’s also the Live Friday Workbox Planning Day. I’d take a look at the All in Work bundle, the Productivity Pack, and the meeting agenda course.

Saturday is focused on all of the invisible and visible work that we do in our homes. If you’ve been wanting to really dive into your home now is your chance to get The Complete Home Organization Bundle, The Paper Solution, The Productive Home Solution, and more at a discount. I appreciate you guys!!

Sunday is of course all about the Sunday Basket®! If you are new to Organize 365® this is a great starting place for anyone to get organized.

Monday is your last chance to place your order - don’t miss out on these crazy deals.

Go print off the workbook so you can see all the products, so you can figure out what is going to be best for your summer transformation for what you want to do for organizing your home and paper and your life in the fall.

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Summer planning round 3, ding ding ding. I share a lot of my life because I am part of the Organize 365® brand. I’ve been podcasting for over 12 years and over that time I have shared a lot about me, my life, and my family. Recently I shared how I wanted to spend the next 120 days upleveling the upstairs of my house. Those plans changed when Abby decided to have back surgery. And once again those plans have changed. And when evaluating my boundaries, I asked to share some news on this podcast I’d been withholding to explain why all the changes.

My personal life

A year or two ago I started practicing boundaries. My family has never been upset with anything that I shared but I started thinking they are adults and it’s their news to share when there’s news. I don’t need to share everything. And a year ago I decided to stop sharing vacation/trips with social media and on the app. But then I wanted to share something while I was on a trip and I questioned my boundaries. I’ve decided I have boundaries in place but when I want to share something I will even if it goes against those boundaries. My boundaries are flexible.

Unexpected golden window

When Abby’s back surgery got cancelled, I removed the “When Abby has back surgery” google calendar and my calendar was bare! I’d dedicated about 80% of my upcoming time to take care of Grayson and Abby. Now what did I want to do in this unexpected golden window? People often ask “I have so much to do, but when I have a pocket of time, I don’t know what to do first.” I say all you need to do is just pick. I had lots of options when that time opened up on my calendar. I decided I want to make the PhD a priority. You see, Abby had to do some pre-operation bloodwork that revealed she’s expecting. Yes!! Hence the surgery is off. This discovery led to a cascade of changes for the next 120 days. The second thing I decided I wanted to do was revisiting creating an office upstairs in our house. And I created a little bedroom upstairs for Grayson like I’d mentioned before so our house is ready for this next phase of life. Wanna know how I’m gonna spend the rest of this time?

Italy, a Wedding, and a Baby

Knowing the baby is coming in December, I want to plan our Italy trip for this fall. It’s been cancelled a few times, and I want to go before Abby needs us with baby #2. More news I’ve been keeping private is that Abby is engaged and they’re getting married in the Spring of 2026, so we definitely need to squeeze this trip in. Pray for me as I plan this wedding. LOL So travel, travel is the other thing I want to do for this 120 days. By the time you listen to this episode I will have just come back from Michigan. Greg and Joey are headed to the Keys. When we head to FL I’m taking Grayson to Disney (secretly hoping it becomes our little tradition.) I’m taking an adult field trip to VA. And I’ll be planning this Italian trip for the fall that we’ve talked about taking forever! So I have a few things keeping me busy.

I will not be creating any courses or Sunday Baskets® for weddings, vacationing, or any other courses based on the events currently in my life. I’m not a public figure that is going to try to be an expert in everything I do. When I created Organize 365® I chose a subject I was an expert in and a subject that I wanted to talk and teach about until I was at least 80. Teaching others about organization is my unique gift and I’m going to stay in that lane.

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Life can really get challenging when you lose someone and they owned a business. Emily and I had to face that, with our dad, and I’ve shared about it and now Anna Hall is sharing about her dad. Anna has two younger brothers and she was kind enough to share their experience with settling his estate, taking care of his business and employees, and the family house her father built with his two hands. It couldn’t have come at a more complicated time for Anna. She and her husband had just built a house one year prior to be a half mile between her mom and her dad who were divorced. And Anna was in school for her doctorate, had an almost 2 year old son, and at almost 31 years had no experience how to settle an estate and grieve the loss of a parent.

It’s never planned

None of us plan when we’ll pass although we may know it’s coming soon. Our passing comes with great emotional distress to those we love. How can we make it easier on them? Do like Anna’s dad did. Thankfully he was a meticulous person and all of his paperwork was orderly and passwords were readily available. It saved a lot of time and money in lawyer fees because the lawyer didn’t have to go on a wild goose chase to obtain information. Anna advises to show up with as much paperwork as you can in that first visit. Her father assigned her uncle as the executor but let Anna and her brothers be in charge. He had a will and a separate document for the business. Her father also had titles transferred upon death saving money on taxes and keeping belongings out of probate.

What to do with the business?

Anna called a meeting with her brothers and a long time employee of her dad’s, JR. Her dad’s dying wish was to keep him working as long as JR wanted to. One of her brothers lived out of state so he wasn’t going to be able to help and Anna worked as a teacher full time so they needed to assign roles. It wasn’t too long after that Anna, who was the leader, realized her brothers weren’t paying attention to the reports, she was fine with that but wasn’t going to devote time to that anymore.

Anna led her dad’s company for 4 ½ years but was ready to sell the company. As fate would have it her father in law had a friend with a similar business. They needed a skilled wood crafter too like JR. Anna was able to sell her fathers company, keep JR working, and keep their current customer list serviced. It was such a blessing for Anna who now had two children and ambition to pursue a career as a result of getting her PhD. However, they did not purchase the warehouse. Anna took time to sell off items. It was sweet for Anna to have some of her father’s friends stop by, share stories, and maybe claim an item or two to remember their friend.

There’s something about the 5 year mark

There was something special for Anna to run the company for almost 5 years. She cherished being the one to carry on the legacy of her dad. If you find you just can’t part with some items yet, that’s ok. I always say get a storage unit, give yourself time with those items, and avoid regretting that you got rid of them. And we talked about that significant 5 year mark. I shared in a previous episode how around the 5 year mark I was able to see some of my dad’s items with less significance. You start to realize that person is a part of you and your memories. They aren’t that thing. The material things no longer represent them.

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If you find yourself in this role as Executor of an estate, I want to make sure to support you best during this time by providing a little food for thought. How do you want this time to look? It’s not easy losing a loved one and hopefully this episode provides emotional support in the form of considering your mindset during this time. And we found it is best practice to have ONE executor! Emily and I were both executors but needed to be present for every singing of all the papers and Emily bowed out. She said you do it, I trust you! It’s so much easier with ONE executor!! Here are the things we did to save time, money, and spare our relationships.

Protect Your Relationships

We had about a 9 month heads up that my dad was terminally ill. I lived 3 ½ hours South of my dad but I made a conscious decision that while my dad was alive I would prioritize taking care of him. My sister would call and I would get in the car and head North. On those long drives I would think about the memories I wanted to create with my dad, the moments I wanted to share still, and burning questions I wanted to ask. This would be the time to finish up that Financial Binder if it wasn’t completed. This way you know you are honoring their final wishes. But really? Complete it before this highly emotional time so you and/or your loved ones can focus on cherishing the final days. My Aunts and Uncles were so good to counsel us during this time in respect to what to expect in settling an estate and planning a funeral.

I also considered people I would be interacting with communicating things about dad’s health, his passing, and the funeral details. Out of respect, even though they were divorced, we communicated his passing with our mom first and loved ones from there. It is also ok during this time to set boundaries. I went through some scenarios to think through. How will you interact with your less than favorite relative respectfully? Keep harmony in mind.

Processing Loss

Based on my experience, it seems to be a female doing the bulk of the executor role. Her husband may be the actual Executor but in her supportive role she does most of the tasks. And so how do you, as a female, household manager, and maybe a parent, take time to process the passing of your loved one?You may need to cry it out in the shower. Maybe it becomes “long shower season.” I grieved my loss leading up to and weeks after his passing at my dad’s house. I found when I was home my family needed me. But when I got up to Akron that was a place I had time to grieve. But I encourage you to be selfish and take the time you need to process this loss.

How to Process the “Stuff”

I have this indulgent thing I do. I lay in bed half awake, half “asleep” and I think. Normally I rearrange my calendar and think through any projects. During this time I thought about my dad, my relationships, and all the stuff in his home. It was all going to be Emily and I’s. I didn’t want all of it but room by room I envisioned what I might want.

Then, I developed this elimination process for Emily and I. She didn’t have the bandwidth to sort through each room. I wanted to support her in this time and get the house content processed so we could move forward with selling his home. Each day, I’d tackle one room and set out all the items. We’d go through and claim the things we wanted. The rest would be offered to family and then to donations. This can be an emotionally charged tough season. Give yourself grace, keep harmony in mind, and for the love…finish your financial binders people!

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