In this episode, I reflect on the loss of someone who meant more to me than just a coach—my high school pole vault coach, Mark Haesly. His passing made me realize how deeply one person can shape the direction of a life without ever knowing it.

Coach Haesly created something special for us as kids. The pole vault pit wasn’t just a place to train—it was a place where we could be ourselves. Loud, competitive, weird, emotional… it didn’t matter. It was a safe environment where we felt accepted, supported, and encouraged to grow.

Looking back now, I realize that what I’ve tried to build with Team Hoot comes directly from that experience. Without Coach Haesly, there probably wouldn’t be a Team Hoot. The sense of belonging, play, and authenticity I try to create today is rooted in what he gave us back then.

In this episode, I talk about grief, mentorship, coaching, and the powerful ripple effect one person can have on young people. Sometimes the communities we build as adults are really just our way of recreating the spaces that once made us feel safe and alive.

This episode is a tribute to Coach Haesly and the legacy he left behind.

Topics in this episode:
Grief and loss
The impact of great coaches and mentors
Creating safe spaces for young people
The origins and inspiration behind Team Hoot
How one person’s influence can shape an entire community

In this episode, I explore how cognitive bias shapes what we think is real—and how quickly perception can turn into emotion. A wild moment at Costco almost triggered full “mama bear mode,” and it got me thinking about rage, protection, and the stories our brains tell us. I wrap it up by diving into why leaning into play might be one of the most grounding things we can do in a biased, chaotic world.

In this episode, I talk about how brutally hard it is to parent when you’re sick—and your kids are sick too. When your body is exhausted and your nervous system is overloaded, the thing you want most is solitude, quiet, and space to regulate. But parenting doesn’t pause.

I explore the tension between needing solitude to heal and still showing up for your kids, even when you feel emotionally and physically depleted. I also revisit something I keep coming back to: repair matters more than perfection. You don’t have to be a flawless parent—you just have to be a present, repairing one.

And because this episode drops on Valentine’s Day, I end with a reminder of love—not just romantic love, but the messy, tired, human love that exists in families every day.

Happy Valentine’s Day. 💙