You're both doing so much. Working, parenting, managing the house, keeping everyone and everything going. You're on the same team, technically, but somewhere along the way you've started living parallel lives. You're sharing responsibilities, schedules and a home, but not necessarily sharing much of yourselves. In this episode, Bridget and Julie explore the quiet drift that happens in good relationships when life becomes so full that intimacy and connection slowly disappear.

Through Julie's own experience of disconnection in her marriage, they unpack what happens when we stop feeling seen, known and enjoyed by our partner, how this impacts our desire for sex, and the small but meaningful ways we can find our way back to each other. Because the goal isn't just to get through life together. It's to actually enjoy the person you're doing it with.

In this episode, we discuss:
- How good relationships quietly drift into parallel lives, even when we love each other deeply.
- Why modern parenting, work and responsibilities can leave us feeling like we're on opposite teams.
- The difference between sharing a life and actually sharing ourselves with each other.
- How we become so good at managing life together that we forget to enjoy each other.
- Why feeling unseen, unappreciated and disconnected can impact our desire for intimacy and sex.
- Julie's personal experience of recognising disconnection in her marriage and choosing to move towards connection rather than away from it.
- Whether emotional intimacy needs to come before sex, or whether physical intimacy can help us find our way back to each other.
- The importance of daily "connection snacks" and why small touchpoints alone aren't always enough.
- How to recognise the quiet drift before it becomes a much bigger relationship divide.
- Small, intentional ways to feel like lovers, friends and teammates again, rather than just two people getting through life together.


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What happens when a breast cancer diagnosis changes not just your body, but the way you see your entire life? In this deeply personal conversation, Julie sits down with Ilea, a mother of two who underwent a double mastectomy following a DCIS diagnosis, to explore the parts of breast cancer recovery we don't talk about enough. From the grief of ending breastfeeding and losing her breasts, to navigating a new relationship with her body, sexuality and intimacy, Ilea shares how her experience became an unexpected invitation to examine the way she was living. Together they explore healing beyond the physical, the mother wound, learning to listen to your body's wisdom, and what it means to stop rushing through life and start being present for it.

A conversation about loss, gratitude, motherhood and discovering that sometimes the most profound healing happens in the relationship we have with ourselves.

In this episode, Julie and Ilea discuss:
- Ilea's unexpected breast cancer diagnosis at 45 and the decisions that led to a double mastectomy.
- The emotional and financial realities of navigating breast cancer treatment.
- The grief of ending breastfeeding before she was ready, and losing a part of her maternal identity.
- Moving beyond the "f*ck cancer" narrative and finding her own meaning in the experience.
- The intersection of medical treatment, emotional healing and the mother wound.
- Learning to trust her body's wisdom when making life-changing decisions.
- Grieving her breasts, accepting her reconstructed body and finding beauty in what has changed.
- The rarely discussed impact of mastectomy on sexual pleasure, arousal, sensation and intimacy.
- Rediscovering pleasure and exploring new ways of experiencing her body.
- How cancer exposed the cost of constant doing, rushing and living by the to-do list.
- The shift from managing motherhood to actually being present within it.
- Journalling, meditation and nervous system regulation as practices for reconnecting with herself.
- Why self-connection isn't another thing on the to-do list, but the foundation for how we show up in our lives.
- Finding gratitude alongside grief, and allowing both to exist.

Connect with Ilea:
https://www.instagram.com/ileasanders/?hl=en
sanders.ilea@gmail.com


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What if self-worth isn’t something you need to build, but something you need to stop bargaining away?

In this episode, Bridget and Julie explore the invisible conditions many of us place around our worth: “I matter when I’m productive, when my children are doing well, when people approve of me, when I’m needed, when I’m attractive, when I’m getting it right...”

They unpack how these “worthiness contracts” are often formed early in life, then quietly follow us into motherhood, relationships, work and the way we respond when life doesn’t go to plan. Through personal stories and real-life examples, they explore what it means to stop intellectually knowing you’re worthy and begin practising a life that says: *I matter, even here.*

In this episode, we discuss:
- The difference between *knowing you’re worthy* and actually living as though you matter.
- The hidden “worthiness contracts” we create, such as I’m worthy when I’m productive, needed, attractive, approved of or getting it right.
- How childhood experiences shape the conditions we place around love, belonging and acceptance.
- Julie’s realisation that she had learned to *cancel her own needs* in order to maintain connection, and how that pattern followed her into motherhood.
- Why motherhood can amplify self-sacrifice and make abandoning yourself look like being a “good mother”.
- How our children’s behaviour can become unconsciously tangled with our own sense of worth and competence.
- Why we self-police when we imagine other people judging our parenting, relationships or choices.
- What happens when a condition you’ve built your worth around disappears, such as productivity, approval, connection or being needed.
- The idea that reality itself may be neutral, while our history and internal patterns shape the meaning we give it.
- Why changing a worthiness pattern isn’t a mindset shift you make once, but a practice you return to again and again.
- How life transitions, including perimenopause, can expose old identities and worthiness contracts that no longer fit.
- The invitation to notice: *What has to be true for you to feel worthy? And who are you when it isn’t?*


Want support on this journey? Come join us inside Honey Club - where we melt these blocks together, one breath, one practice, one deep remembering at a time. Find out more at julietenner.love or visit: https://julie-tenner.newzenler.com/courses/honeyclub


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