What if the reason you can’t figure something out isn’t that you haven’t thought hard enough? What if part of the answer lives with someone else?

When change is moving quickly, no one person has the whole picture. The knowledge we need is distributed across the people closest to the work, technical experts, skeptics, customers, people navigating risk, and sometimes the person who quietly tried six months ago what everyone else is still debating.

That changes what expertise looks like.

In this episode of Technically Joyful, Gabrielle Kohlmeier explores why connection is not just a nice leadership trait. It is a capability for navigating complexity.

Drawing on her experience leading generative AI transformation inside a Fortune 30 company, Gabrielle shares how what first looked like a technology challenge quickly revealed an interconnected system of people, processes, incentives, risks, dependencies, and knowledge that no one person or function could see alone.

The job wasn’t to know every piece. It was to get better at finding the pieces, connecting them, and exercising judgment across what emerged.

Connection also gives us something else: energy. Sometimes another person gives us the question we hadn’t thought to ask, shows us a possibility we’d stopped seeing, or simply makes a difficult problem interesting again.

Hard things require energy. Change requires energy. Learning requires energy. Sometimes we borrow that energy from one another.

That’s joy as fuel.

In This Episode

• Why no one person has the whole picture
• How distributed knowledge changes what expertise looks like
• Why “Who knows something we don’t?” can be a better question than “Who needs to approve this?”
• How human relationships help knowledge move
• Why accountability is different from solitary knowledge ownership
• How connection can replenish energy for hard things
• How AI can surface missing perspectives without replacing lived knowledge
• Why curiosity says “I can learn” and connection says “I don’t have to learn alone”

Your Rep: Widen the Aperture

Think of one real thing you’re trying to figure out.

Ask your AI tool:

“I’m trying to figure out X. Give me five perspectives I may be missing, who might hold each one, and one question I should ask them.”

Then pick one actual person who holds a perspective you need and ask:

“I’m trying to figure out X. What are you seeing?”

AI can widen your aperture. It can’t give you someone else’s lived knowledge.

One person. One question. One rep.

Sources & Resources

• Paul Leonardi & Tsedal Neeley, “What Managers Need to Know About Social Tools,” Harvard Business Review
• Amanda Palmer, The Art of Asking
• Carol Tavris & Elliot Aronson, Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me)

Ways to Connect with Gabrielle

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