Do you actually know where your family's money is going? After almost 20 years in family law, I can tell you the partners who don't are the ones who end up most vulnerable in a divorce.

In this episode of No One Dies from Divorce, I sit down with my CoilLaw colleague Crystal Anderson to talk about the part of divorce nobody warns you about: money and power. We get into why completely separate finances are the single biggest thread I see running through divorces, the way financial dependency quietly builds over years, and the cold truth about chasing "hidden" money like crypto and cash, and how much people waste looking for accounts that were never there.

We also get into the Utah specifics: how alimony and spousal support actually work as a shift of income, what equitable division and a no-fault state really mean for your case, why "fair" is the wrong word to bring into a divorce, and what to look for when hiring a divorce lawyer who'll tell you the truth instead of just running up your bill.

If you've ever felt powerless about money in your relationship, knowledge is power. The more you understand before a divorce ever starts, the more freedom, stability, and peace you'll have on the other side.

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Think family court is about finding justice and punishing your ex? Think again. In this eye-opening episode of No One Dies From Divorce, I sit down with my partner in crime and senior managing attorney, Gabi Jones, to reveal the harsh legal realities that often shatter our clients' expectations.

As experienced advocates in family law, Gabi and I explain why seeking revenge or "fairness" during a divorce usually leads to emotional burnout and financial strain. We unpack the profound psychological impact of splitting a household and explore why perfectly rational, successful people often make terrible decisions when operating in survival mode. Giving up control to a judge means letting a stranger decide your future—so how do you navigate the legal system without losing yourself?

Key Takeaways from this Episode:

• The Justice Myth: Why the legal system is built to divide lives and assets, not to punish bad behavior or validate your emotions.
• Survival Mode Mistakes: How trauma, fear, and a lack of control drive people to make poor, reactive legal choices.
• Reclaiming Your Power: Proven strategies to let go of the things you cannot control and confidently rebuild your life on your own terms.

Tune in to hear the specific cases that fundamentally changed how Gabi and I practice law, and learn how you can navigate your own split with clarity and confidence.

Do you feel stressed out, bewildered, emotionally compromised, or overwhelmed with navigating your divorce? Today we are talking with author Andy Heller about how to deal with high-conflict divorces and co-parent effectively. Through his own divorce and life experience, Andy has outlined a pathway for how to manage emotional, logistical, and financial issues that occur during and after a divorce. His goal is to help people choose compassion over fear, heal hearts, prepare for a future, and provide security and stability for their children.

Samantha Boss spent years in and out of court, fighting to modify a poorly crafted divorce decree. This experience inspired Samantha to begin coaching others through the divorce process in order to help more parents avoid the pitfalls of parenting plans. Join us on this episode as we talk about the need for a solid, perfectly tailored parenting plan that covers your family's specific needs, or as Samantha calls it, ”the playbook for life with your kids.”

Divorce is hard on everyone. Between Mediation, decrees, lawyer fees, court dates, parent-time, and more, the divorce process can create a lot of chaos. Often the children of divorce get lost in the conflict, and their voices are not heard. Today we are talking with Grace Casper, a young woman who was a child of divorce. Grace is sharing her perspective as her parents divorced while she was still a child. In her book that's coming out in June, Grace shares what she wishes her parents knew during the divorce along with tips to help children cope with their parents' divorce. Listen in as we discuss how to hear what our children need during divorce, and ways to support them through this massive life change.

Shelly Anderson is passionate about life's journey and the stages we grow through. At times that includes loss, divorce, and death. Join us as we discuss how grief isn't just a single stage, and that trauma becomes a part of who we are. Time does not heal all wounds; time allows the body to absorb the wounds and create space so we can mourn the life we thought we’d live, and press forward in the life we have.

If you're divorced and dating or dating a divorcee, then this episode is for you! Listen in as Naja Hall tells it like it is. Blended families are difficult under the best of circumstances, but marrying someone with a High-Conflict divorce comes at a cost. It will test you mentally, emotionally, and financially, and test your relationship with your new spouse as well as any children involved. All blended families come with chaos and friction, so take Naja's advice and make sure your expectations align with reality before you step into a stepparent role.

Regardless of where you're at in your marriage or divorce process, there are a few key things to consider before choosing to stay or go. Divorce coach Kate Anthony talks about the importance of doing the emotional work which can guide you to finding joy and/or exit with grace. She says, Happiness is an inside job and it begins with making the choice. You deserve to be happy!