Every dad has been there. Your child says something disrespectful. Your spouse reacts in a way you didn't expect. Stress builds at work, and before you know it, you're responding out of emotion instead of wisdom. But what if there was a simple framework that could help you slow down, take ownership of your thoughts, and respond in a way that honors God?

In this episode, we're joined by James Lenhoff to unpack the powerful CTFAR method—a practical tool that's helped countless people navigate conflict, parenting, marriage, work, and even financial decisions with greater clarity and self-control. If you've ever wished you could respond more intentionally instead of reacting in the moment, this conversation will give you a framework you'll use for years to come. Links In This Episode Emotion Wheel: https://abrahamswallet.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/07/Emotion-Wheel-1.jpg CTFAR Model Questions: https://abrahamswallet.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/07/Unknown.pdf WealthQuest: https://www.wqcorp.com/ GoodSense: https://goodsensemovement.org/ FreedUp App: https://getfreedup.com/

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• (00:00:00) - How to Get Through a Conflict With Yourself
• (00:00:46) - Take Control of Your Wallet
• (00:01:44) - A Christian Financial Planner on Abraham's Wallet
• (00:03:36) - Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
• (00:11:16) - How to Get Through a Conflict With My Wife
• (00:17:14) - The Real Cost of Blaming Your Partner
• (00:24:46) - Boundaries for Relationships
• (00:30:45) - How to Talk About Abusive Relationships
• (00:33:47) - The Woe and the Money
• (00:41:12) - The Problem of Spending Too Much
• (00:45:07) - How to Get Through Anger Issues in Guys
• (00:48:27) - Share the Emotion Wheel With Others
• (00:51:56) - C2 is a hard verb
• (00:52:14) - Good Sense: What's Going On There?