Reframing Mastery Practice Group: Suggestion in Trance, Limiting Beliefs & Humorous Reframes (Steve Crabb & Tina Taylor)

Steve Crabb and Tina Taylor host a live practice group focused on reframing mastery, beginning with global attendee check-ins and Steve’s upcoming trip to Crete amid an earthquake and tsunami warning used as a warm-up reframe. Steve asks, “What is the purpose of suggestion in trance?” and frames it as bypassing conscious limitations to evoke potential and create better mental maps, citing Erickson’s view of suggestibility as receiving impulses and the mind’s idio-plastic ability to change. He guides an ecological reframing exercise: identify a limiting belief, trace its origins and positive intention, uncover secondary gains, consider future costs, and generate alternative perspectives and options (requisite variety). Tina then teaches reframing with humor and respectful teasing, shares examples (including charging for “tea and biscuits,” smoking/weight-loss reframes, and a spider phobia breakthrough), and participants practice in small groups, reporting insights and shifts afterward.

00:00 Welcome and Roll Call
01:31 Holiday Prep and Tsunami Jokes
04:50 Theme Introduction Reframing Mastery
05:38 Big Question Suggestion in Trance
08:39 Maps of Reality and Suggestibility
12:41 Eliciting Goals and Listening Deeply
15:24 Limitations and Willingness to Change
19:22 Guided Ecological Reframing Exercise
27:35 Requisite Variety and New Options
32:15 Debrief Insights and Blog Mention
34:54 Tina on Reframing with Humor
41:12 Rapport Teasing and Client Change
43:31 Tea and Biscuit Pricing
46:31 Smoking Limitation Reframe
48:56 Spider Phobia Breakthrough
53:02 Group Reframe Exercise
55:09 Practice Debrief Insights
01:00:35 Live Reframes on Mic
01:11:05 Perfectionism and Next Steps
01:11:35 Feedback and Farewell

Live Q&A: Supporting LGBTQ+ Clients, Marketing Your Change Work, Networking ROI, Hypnobirthing vs Painless Childbirth & Phobia Breakthroughs

Steve and Tina host a live-streamed Q&A and share updates from their day-to-day lives before answering emailed questions, mainly from their Secret Agents Change membership. The month’s theme is relationships and gender, based on an interview Tina held with Gloria Hammett and trans woman Dr. Wendy Peters about how NLP coaches and hypnotherapists can best support trans and LGBTQ+ clients, emphasizing confidence, self-esteem, handling bullying, and avoiding imposing the practitioner’s map while listening for modal operators and influences from family and peers. They discuss young people identifying as trans, the possibility of body dysmorphia in some cases, and the importance of sticking to NLP change processes, well-formed outcomes, and ecology checks. They address marketing and referrals: many people don’t understand NLP/hypnosis and may avoid “mental health” language due to stigma, so practitioners should focus messaging on client benefits, demonstrate change work rather than explain it, and double down on what already produces referrals. They answer a case-related question about supporting a Muslim client navigating cultural identity, arranged marriage/divorce, and relationship expectations, again highlighting process-based coaching, clean questioning, logical levels, and ecology. Steve shares mixed experiences with formal paid networking groups—some low return and overly sales-driven, others collaborative and effective—stressing the value of presenting and giving audiences a “wow” demo, including a standout LinkedIn entrepreneurs event that led to significant work and a Sky TV opportunity. Tina answers questions about her painless childbirth work, noting her book is now available in French, differentiating her NLP/hypnotherapy-based approach from the Hypnobirthing franchise’s scripted model, and explaining how she positions her offer. They also discuss transitioning from employment to self-employment, exploring security values, readiness, and business skills, with Tina sharing how she left a banking role and scaled rates. Finally, they cover a claustrophobia case where progress is made but the young client isn’t following instructions, linking resistance to secondary gain and missed ecology issues, and preview a fears/phobias demo in an upcoming practitioner training. They close by promoting upcoming trainings and a three-day Business Alchemy event in Glastonbury with planned activities at Chalice Well.

00:00 Going Live Setup

01:10 Sunshine Small Talk

01:46 Tina’s Turkey Tale

03:18 Teenage Grandsons Update

05:19 Eurovision Banter

06:05 Membership Q&A Intro

06:57 Coaching Gender Issues

11:15 Don’t Impose Your Map

13:42 Youth Transition Stories

20:30 Marketing Pitch Advice

27:27 Culture Identity in Relationships

33:17 Networking Reciprocity Question

34:20 Networking Mixed Results

37:07 Best Groups Demonstrate

37:40 Speaker Wow Moments

40:15 Breakfast Clubs Authority

44:25 Niche Versus Franchise

50:34 Differentiate Your Offer

53:16 Quitting Job Security

57:42 Phobia Client Compliance

01:02:47 Ecology Checks Upfront

01:05:24 Wrap Up And Events

From Helplessness to Healing: Strategies for Effective Coaching

Steve and Tina go live to answer audience questions about coaching, therapy, and building a practice. They discuss giving clients “hope” as a way to create a crack in learned helplessness, focusing less on semantics and more on getting clients curious, playful, and willing to try something different, including occasional provocative approaches. They share examples of rapid change work, including a client who stopped drinking after a session, and how stage fright can be addressed using anchors, submodalities, and deep trance identification (DTI), with stories involving rock musicians and actors. They explain handling clients who bring a long list of issues by prioritizing, looking for connected root issues, and aiming for quick wins while setting realistic expectations about session length. Business and marketing topics include generating more inquiries through structured referral strategies, using a collaborative sales conversation process to prevent end-of-call objections (including ensuring decision-makers are present), and challenges of selling workplace wellbeing services in the UK, emphasizing ROI and supporting mental health first aiders/champions. They also cover working with children’s limited diets by training parents, and hoarding by identifying counterexamples and strategies without starting with home visits. The episode closes with updates on upcoming books, travel and trainings, a Mindvalley hypnosis course recording in Estonia, a webinar on hypnotic anesthesia from Italy, and invitations to a July Business Alchemy retreat in Glastonbury and an upcoming London practitioner training.

00:00 Going Live Banter

01:16 Updates Books Travel Courses

04:03 Client Hope Learned Helplessness

12:13 Provocative Hope Reframe

13:58 Stage Fright Anchors DTI

20:23 Actors Anxiety Role Switching

26:24 Getting More Client Inquiries

28:50 Selling Without Fear

29:06 Collaborative Conversation Framework

30:52 Decision Maker Commitment Question

31:42 Handling Objections Through Process

34:13 Kids Food Issues Train Parents

38:47 Hoarding Cases Avoid Home Visits

44:01 Workplace Wellbeing Pitching ROI

53:22 Choosing What To Treat First

59:42 Wrap Up Events And Goodbye