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In this insightful conversation, Steve Titian from Pacific Cascade Legal speaks with Dr. Bruce Chalmer, a couples therapist with over 30 years of experience, about the complex dynamics of betrayal, forgiveness, and rebuilding trust in relationships.

Dr. Chalmer explains that betrayal uniquely hurts because it not only involves
someone breaking our trust, but also causes us to doubt our own judgment and sanity. He introduces a three-step forgiveness process—forgiving yourself, forgiving the person who hurt you, and "forgiving God" (accepting
reality as it is)—emphasizing that forgiveness is an "inside job" that doesn't necessarily mean restoring the relationship.

The discussion covers how couples can heal from infidelity, the importance of faith (not necessarily religious) in accepting reality, and how both the betrayed and the betrayer must work through trust issues to move forward, whether together or apart.

If you would like to speak with one of our attorneys, please call our office at (503) 227-0200, or visit our website at https://www.pacificcascadelegal.com.

To learn more about Bruce can help you, you can view his website at: https://brucechalmer.com/

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Join us as we sit down with Psychologist and Author, Gloria Vanderhorst, to discuss how our early histories can jump into the present without our awareness and undermine our interactions with our children and co-parenting abilities.

Gloria, who has practiced for 50 years, explains how the brain stores every experience—both accessible and hidden—and how these memories can suddenly emerge to affect our present-day interactions. The conversation explores gender differences in emotional expression, the impact of technology on children's communication skills, and practical strategies for divorced parents navigating co-parenting challenges. Gloria also introduces her journal book, "Read, Reflect, Respond," designed to help adults access deeper emotional insights through visual and written expression.

If you would like to speak with one of our attorneys, please call our office at (503) 227-0200, or visit our website at https://www.pacificcascadelegal.com.

To learn more about Gloria can help you, you can view her website at: https://drvanderhorst.com/

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Join us as we sit down with Founder of Reynolds Defense Firm, Dan Reynolds to discuss the concept of a "window of clarity" - a brief period following traumatic life events like divorce or arrest when people are uniquely open to making significant personal changes. Reynolds explains how trauma temporarily shatters our
protective ego shell, creating an opportunity to implement lasting change with less resistance than in everyday life.

The conversation explores how this window can be utilized through structured coaching and curriculum to help individuals emerge from difficult experiences as better versions of themselves. Reynolds emphasizes that this window is temporary and must be seized quickly before the brain's natural defenses rebuild and the opportunity for transformation passes.

If you would like to speak with one of our attorneys, please call our office at (503) 227-0200, or visit our website at https://www.pacificcascadelegal.com.

To learn more about Dan and Tammy and how their firm can help you, you can view their website at: https://www.reynoldsdefensefirm.com/

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Join us as we sit down with Bankruptcy Attorney, Darin Wisehart, to discuss the warning signs that indicate it might be time to consult with a bankruptcy attorney. Rather than focusing on the technical aspects of bankruptcy law, the conversation centers on practical indicators such as mounting credit card debt, missing payments, borrowing from retirement accounts, and the mental health toll of
financial stress. Darren emphasizes that initial consultations are typically free and that reaching out early—before a financial crisis becomes unmanageable—is always better than waiting. The episode provides valuable guidance for anyone wondering whether their financial situation warrants professional legal advice.

As a leading divorce firm in Portland, our attorneys provide guidance on custody, alimony, separation, estate planning, and more. Learn what to expect in Oregon and Washington divorce cases and how we can help.

If you would like to speak with one of our attorneys, please call our office at (503) 227-0200, or visit our website at https://www.pacificcascadelegal.com.

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In this episode of Modern Family Matters, Steve Altishin and Founding Attorney Lewis Landerholm discuss the common pitfalls of DIY divorces in Oregon and what can be done when things go wrong.

They explore how seemingly simple divorces can become complicated when parties don't understand legal requirements, procedural deadlines, and the long-term implications of their agreements. The conversation covers topics including property division, spousal and child support, parenting plans, and the limited options available for modifying judgments after they're finalized.

Lewis emphasizes that investing in legal advice upfront can save thousands of dollars in litigation costs later and prevent irreversible mistakes that impact people's lives for years to come.

As a leading divorce firm in Portland, our attorneys provide guidance on custody, alimony, separation, estate planning, and more. Learn what to expect in Oregon and Washington divorce cases and how we can help.

If you would like to speak with one of our attorneys, please call our office at (503) 227-0200, or visit our website at https://www.pacificcascadelegal.com.

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Join us as we sit down with Founding Attorney, Lewis Landerholm, to discuss how pendente lite court orders can protect you in the midst of a divorce case.

As a leading divorce firm in Portland, our attorneys provide guidance on custody, alimony, separation, estate planning, and more. Learn what to expect in Oregon and Washington divorce cases and how we can help.

If you would like to speak with one of our attorneys, please call our office at (503) 227-0200, or visit our website at https://www.pacificcascadelegal.com.

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In this episode, Steve Altishin interviews Ron Platt, CEO of the National Association for Single and Divorced Families (NASDF), about creating a comprehensive resource hub for individuals going through divorce or managing single-family households. Ron shares his personal journey of bringing his late father's vision to life—a unique insurance product that guarantees child support and alimony payments in cases of death, disability, or involuntary unemployment. Beyond insurance, NASDF offers nationwide resources including career services,
mental health support, childcare discounts, legal assistance, and real estate benefits. Ron's passion stems from his own experiences as a foster parent and witnessing the struggles of friends navigating toxic relationships and custody battles. The organization aims to grow its membership to advocate for foster care reform and family law court improvements, following the successful model of organizations like AARP.

As a leading divorce firm in Portland, our attorneys provide guidance on custody, alimony, separation, estate planning, and more. Learn what to expect in Oregon and Washington divorce cases and how we can help.

If you would like to speak with one of our attorneys, please call our office at (503) 227-0200, or visit our website at https://www.pacificcascadelegal.com.

To learn more about Ron Platt and how NASDF can help you, check out their website at: https://www.nasdf.org/

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Join us as we sit down with Co-Founder of "Been There Got Out", High-Conflict Divorce Strategist and Certified Domestic Violence Advocate, Lisa Johnson, to discuss your options when a contentious divorce results in legal abuse, and how you can fight back.

In this episode of Modern Family Matters, host Steve Altishin interviews Lisa Johnson about legal abuse and what to do when an ex-partner uses the
court system as a weapon of harassment. Lisa shares her personal experience of a decade-long divorce battle that included over 100 court appearances and resulted in a published case in the Connecticut Law Journal. The conversation explores the psychological motivations behind legal abuse, including personality disorders and
addiction to revenge, and provides practical strategies for combating this form of harassment. Lisa emphasizes the importance of strategic communication, maintaining "clean hands" in court, and understanding that
traditional logical approaches often fail when dealing with high-conflict personalities.

As a leading divorce firm in Portland, our attorneys provide guidance on custody, alimony, separation, estate planning, and more. Learn what to expect in Oregon and Washington divorce cases and how we can help.

If you would like to speak with one of our attorneys, please call our office at (503) 227-0200, or visit our website at https://www.pacificcascadelegal.com.

To learn more about Lisa Johnson and how she can help you, check out her website at: https://beentheregotout.com/

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