Does the holiday season make you feel like pouring a glass (or two) of wine is the only way to survive the stress? Between hosting, caregiving, and the emotional weight of family dynamics, it’s no wonder alcohol can feel like a go-to solution. But what if there’s another way?

In this eye-opening episode, I’m joined once again by my dear friend and sobriety coach, Maureen Benkovich. We’re talking honestly about alcohol, midlife, and the unique pressures women face during the holidays. This isn’t about judgment or labels—it’s about getting curious, protecting your nervous system, and finding peace and clarity in the middle of the madness.

If you’ve ever caught yourself wondering, “Why do I always feel worse after that second glass?” or “How can I say no without making it a big deal?”—this one’s for you.

In this episode:

• Why the holidays are a perfect storm for alcohol overuse, especially for midlife women
• The truth about brain chemistry and why reaching for a drink is often autopilot—not weakness
• The HALT method: a simple, powerful check-in to calm your system without pouring a drink
• How “lengthening” your response can shift cravings and create new habits
• Why you don’t need to declare sobriety to start making mindful choices
• What to say when someone pressures you to drink (without giving your life story)
• The biggest myth about alcohol and fun—and how to bust it
• How to gently reset your relationship with alcohol in a way that supports your body, brain, and goals

Resources Mentioned:

https://www.soberfitchick.com/alcohol-reset

https://www.soberfitchick.com/

instagram @soberfitchickllc

Connect with me, Dr. Sara Poldmae:

Website: https://risingwomanproject.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drsarapoldmae

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This week’s episode is a real-life, unpolished, sit-on-the-couch-with-me kind of conversation. If you noticed there was no episode last week… you’re right. And today, I’m sharing exactly why.

The last several weeks have been overwhelming in ways I didn’t fully acknowledge until everything came to a stop. After the fire at my Annapolis clinic, the smoke and water damage, the rebuild, the logistics of reopening, caring for patients in my other clinic, planning a huge anniversary celebration and bringing home a new puppy (yes, really!) — I hit a wall. I simply forgot to record an episode. And instead of beating myself up, I decided to listen to what my body was trying to tell me: I needed to pause.

In this episode:

• How the clinic fire and rebuild pushed me past my limit
• What it feels like to juggle everything—and still have things fall through the cracks
• The shame of forgetting simple tasks… and the truth that it happens to all of us
• The reminder I coach women on constantly but sometimes forget myself:
  You’re allowed to rest. You don’t have to do things the way you always have.
• Why I’m not quitting the podcast, even though I considered it
• How I’m shifting into a more grounded, intentional production rhythm
• Why midlife can feel so full, so chaotic, and so deeply human—and why we need real conversations, not polished perfection

My New Podcast Schedule

To honor my own capacity (and sanity!), new episodes will now drop on the:
📅 Second and fourth Thursday of every month

This gives me breathing room to show up for my patients, run my business, and create episodes that are meaningful, deeper, and more intentional—rather than rushing to fill every Thursday.

If You’re Feeling Overwhelmed Too…

Let this be your sign.
It’s okay to pause.
It’s okay to change your mind.
It’s okay to shift the rules.
It’s okay to let one version of yourself go and step into something new.

We’re not here to perform. We’re here to live these messy, beautiful, imperfect lives — and sometimes living requires letting something drop so you can breathe.

Upcoming Annapolis Day Retreat

If you’re local, I would love to see you at the co-ed day retreat I’m hosting with my friend and breathwork practitioner, Trish Brewer:

🗓 January 4
📍 Restore Studio, Annapolis

There will be breathwork, Hatha yoga, restorative yoga, and a whole day designed to help you reset and reconnect.
Search “Annapolis retreat” on Eventbrite to find the link.

Connect with me, Dr. Sara Poldmae:

Website: https://risingwomanproject.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drsarapoldmae

Have a question I can answer? Send me a message! I love to hear from my listeners!

Have you ever found yourself stuck—knowing you want more energy, more confidence, more joy—but unsure of where to start? Or maybe you’ve hit a roadblock that’s thrown your whole routine off course (again), and you're struggling to get back on track. If any of that sounds familiar, this episode is here to help you reconnect with your inner spark and move forward with purpose.

In this uplifting and empowering conversation, I’m joined by midlife fitness expert and author Heike Yates, creator of the SPARK Framework. We talk about the common challenges midlife women face when it comes to fitness, motivation, and mindset—and how a simple yet powerful structure can guide you back to yourself, even when life gets messy.

Heike Yates is a Midlife Fitness Expert, Author, and Creator of the SPARK Framework, known for helping women in midlife reclaim their confidence, rebuild their energy, and live fully, on their terms. With over 35 years of experience in fitness, nutrition, and mindset coaching, she supports women who feel stuck in the “start-over cycle” to create realistic, empowering habits that fit their lives right now—not some perfect version of the past. As the host of the Pursue Your Spark Podcast and author of Pursue Your Spark, Heike inspires women to step out of survival mode and into a life that feels clear, strong, and truly their own.

In this episode:

• What the SPARK Framework is—and how to use it daily to support your wellness goals
• Why "starting over" is a myth and how to shift your mindset toward refinement instead
• How to navigate real-life roadblocks (like burnout, injuries, or caregiving duties) without losing momentum
• The power of scanning your life to uncover what you truly want—right now
• Ways to reconnect with joy by revisiting childhood interests and playful movement
• Why it's never too late to try something new (yes, even hula hooping at 82!)
• How group classes, gamified movement, and structure can support consistency in a busy life

Resources Mentioned:

· Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pursueyourspark

· Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heikeyates/

· LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/heike-yates/

· YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQIeOesGLGAOD5RhI2KYjcA

· Podcast - Pursue Your Spark: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pursue-your-spark-midlife-fitness-nutrition-mindset/id1231586317

· Book - Pursue Your Spark: https://amzn.to/4mD5xL7

· Free Midlife Reset Guide: https://heikeyates.com/l/midlife-reset-guide/

Connect with me, Dr. Sara Poldmae:

Website: https://risingwomanproject.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drsarapoldmae

Have a question I can answer? Send me a message! I love to hear from my listeners!