🎙️ MEN SEEKING CALM Podcast

Episode Title: Emotional Reasoning: When Feelings Pretend to Be Facts

Host: Greg Martin – WalkTheMountain.com

🧠 Episode Summary

In this episode, Greg explores the thinking trap of Emotional Reasoning — the tendency to believe something is true just because you feel it strongly. From feeling like a failure to assuming your relationship is falling apart, emotional reasoning can distort reality and sabotage connection.

Greg breaks it down with real examples, practical tools, and one powerful reminder:

“Feelings are signals, not facts.”

💡 What You’ll Learn

• What emotional reasoning is and why it’s so common (especially in men under relationship stress)
• How emotional reasoning hijacks logic and clarity
• Real-life examples of emotional reasoning in conflict
• Why feelings can’t always be trusted as evidence
• A simple self-check script to interrupt emotional spirals
• How to reconnect with your partner instead of withdrawing or attacking

🔁 Key Quotes

“The feeling becomes the proof — but it’s not proof at all.” “Just because you feel like crap doesn’t mean everything is crap.” “Say it with me: ‘I feel ___, but that doesn’t mean it’s true.’”

🛠️ Tools & Takeaways

• Pause and ask: “What’s the evidence for this feeling?”
• Say out loud: “I’m feeling [emotion], but that doesn’t mean it’s true.”
• Ask your partner what they’re actually thinking — don’t assume.
• Recognize the emotional lens, but don’t let it be the judge and jury.

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🎙️ MEN SEEKING CALM Episode Title: The Fallacy of Fairness — When Keeping Score Kills Connection Host: Greg Martin Website: WalkTheMountain.com

In this episode, Greg dives deep into one of the most draining cognitive traps for men in relationships: The Fallacy of Fairness. This thinking habit convinces us that life — and love — should always feel "fair," and when it doesn’t, someone must be doing something wrong. From dish-duty arguments to emotional scorekeeping, Greg explores how the fairness trap breeds resentment, victimhood, and emotional distance — especially when men use it as a mental courtroom to justify frustration or blame. If you’ve ever thought, “I did the right thing, so why is she still upset?” — this one’s for you.

• What the Fallacy of Fairness looks like in real life
• How it shows up in arguments, expectations, and “emotional math”
• Why chasing fairness often leads to disconnection
• How childhood experiences can shape our sensitivity to perceived injustice
• The real difference between fairness and relational generosity

• Drop the scoreboard — focus on connection, not competition
• Practice generosity without expecting return
• Reframe “What’s fair?” to “What’s helpful right now?”
• Speak from need, not blame
• Get curious before you get critical
• Shift from “me vs. you” to “us as a team”

Let go of keeping score and start building bridges. The real win in relationships isn’t fairness — it’s mutual care, honest repair, and showing up as teammates, not opponents.

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In This Episode: Greg Martin dives deep into one of the most common mental traps that keep men stuck — Blaming Her and offers practical insights for getting unstuck. Today’s episode is about spotting the story in your head before it hijacks your relationship.

Key Takeaways:

• Why blame erodes intimacy and self-worth
• How these patterns show up in everyday moments with your partner
• Why awareness is the first step to emotional freedom
• Greg’s tools to start shifting from reactive to reflective

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