In this episode, I sit down with trauma coach Paul Cameron for a deep, honest, and surprisingly relatable conversation about the patterns that keep us stuck. Paul breaks down the idea of the “emotional home” — the familiar state we fall back into when life gets hard, even if that place is painful or self-sabotaging.

He opens up about a moment in his own life when the financial pressure became so intense he contemplated “ditching the van” — literally driving it into a ditch just to escape the weight he was carrying. His honesty around that moment sets the tone for the rest of the conversation: raw, human, and unfiltered.

We also explore the inner teen rebel, the disconnection from the inner child, the exhaustion of people-pleasing, and how these old roles show up in adulthood when we’re trying to move forward.

This episode is packed with insight, compassion, humour, and real talk — a reminder that breaking patterns isn’t about being perfect; it’s about understanding the story you keep returning to and choosing something better.

Connect with Paul

https://www.traumapaul.com

TikTok - Paul Cameron @TruamaPaul

Join Paul's healing program - https://www.skool.com/rewrite-the-script-5671/about?ref=7c11d06d489943b9902c72fe61754111

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Email - menarehuman2@gmail.com

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In this episode, I talk about what courage actually looks like crying on camera, laughing through tears, making decisions that scare the life out of you, and choosing the path that makes zero sense to anyone but you.

I share my own journey of walking away from a legal career with no plan, following my curiosity, listening to my heart, and surviving the messy middle where everyone else would’ve folded. I open up about leaving someone I loved in search of a “better version” of me, travelling the world, and realising the person I was chasing had been here the whole time.

This episode is for anyone staring at a hard decision, doubting themselves, or wondering if they’re crazy for wanting something different. You’re not. You just need courage and courage always starts with vulnerability.

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Email - menarehuman2@gmail.com

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LinkedIn - Valentin Moyo

In Part Two of my conversation with Vincent Hazenboom, we dive into the often-unspoken reality of porn addictionand the impact it quietly has on men’s emotional lives, relationships, and sense of self. Vincent opens up about how pornography shaped his ability to form meaningful connections with women and even affected something he deeply loved and wanted to try — salsa dancing.

We explore what most men misunderstand about porn, why avoiding it altogether can be a powerful act of self-respect, and how choosing real intimacy over digital stimulation can transform the way men connect, love, and show up in the world.

This episode is honest, grounded, and a necessary conversation about reclaiming desire, presence, and authenticity.

*listener's discretion advised*

Vincent's contact

https://linktr.ee/howtoheartshow

Linkedin - Vincent Hazenboom

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Email - menarehuman2@gmail.com

Tik Tok - @menarehumantoo

LinkedIn - Valentin Moyo