Overthinking can look like “being responsible,” but it often feels like you’re stuck in your own head with no exit. We’re putting the spotlight on Elaine Belson, a self-authority coach, speaker, psychotherapist, and Army veteran, to talk about what really helps when you’re hard on yourself, constantly second-guessing, or relying on other people’s reactions to feel OK.

Elaine breaks down her one-to-one coaching, including a 60-minute mindset reset and a 90-minute deep dive (plus discounted multi-session packages). We dig into the patterns that keep women trapped in self-criticism and people pleasing, and why building self-authority means learning to trust your instincts, set boundaries without looking for permission, and practice self-validation instead of using others as mirrors.

You’ll hear memorable frameworks you can actually use: overthinking is like chocolate cake (comforting, but not a solution), the six types of overthinking, and why emotions are information just like hunger or pain. Elaine also shares the “Columbo” approach to growth (curious, not judgmental) and a powerful reframe for boundaries she calls the opposite of the golden rule. We even get into her story of joining the Army at 42 and what that says about choosing a bigger impact.

If you want practical mindset coaching, emotional intelligence tools, and a clearer path to confident decisions, this conversation will give you a solid starting point. Subscribe, share this with a friend who’s stuck in overthinking, and leave a review to help more people find the show.

00:00 Member Spotlight Intro

01:37 Meet Elaine Belson

03:02 Elaine’s Background Mantras

04:28 One to One Coaching Offer

04:43 Who It’s For and How It Helps

07:13 How Clients Find and Book

09:45 Who It’s Not For

10:38 Audience Q and A Stories

14:16 Trends Overthinking Chocolate Cake

16:10 Army Veteran Story Barbie Moment

22:57 Self Validation and Mirroring

25:48 Wrap Up Links and Community Events

30:08 Final Thanks and Close

Connect with Elaine on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elainebelsonlcsw/

Visit Elaine's website:
https://www.theselfauthoritycoach.com/

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My name is Brenda Meller. I'm a LinkedIn coach, consultant, speaker, and author. My company is Meller Marketing and I help business professionals get a bigger slice of the LinkedIn pie.

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