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If you've been single for a while and you've got some money to spend, a matchmaker can start to look awfully tempting. Someone else does the work. Someone else vets the men. Someone else hands you a curated list of possibilities while you sit back and wait for love to be delivered. I understand the appeal. But before you send that Venmo, there's something you need to hear, and it might surprise you coming from a dating coach.

I have nothing against matchmakers. The good ones are skilled, ethical, and worth every penny for the right woman. But here's the truth I've watched play out over and over: if you haven't dealt with the reasons you're still single, you can spend $25,000 on the best matchmaker in the country and end up exactly where you started. Different men, same outcome. Because no matchmaker can change what happens in your body or mind when a good man finally gets close.

In this episode, I break down the real difference between matchmaking and coaching, why one finds you introductions and the other makes you ready to receive them, and how to know which one you actually need right now. By the end, you might realize the smartest money you can spend isn't on finding more men. It's on becoming the woman who can keep the right one.

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