In this episode, we talk about deconstructing what we've been taught masculinity and femininity are supposed to look like — and reconstructing them in ways that feel healthier, more honest, and more personal. We explore how these energies don't look the same for everyone, and how rigid definitions can do more harm than good.

Kelsi opens up about realizing her social media algorithm sometimes needs a reset — how being constantly fed certain ideologies can take ideas that originated within her and distort them through overexposure, misinformation, and extremity. What starts as self-reflection can quickly turn into confusion when too many voices start shaping your inner dialogue.

We discuss how necessary conversations around toxic hypermasculinity have become — but also how those conversations have, at times, pushed us toward seeing masculinity as a whole as "bad," instead of making space for the distinction between healthy masculinity and harmful behavior.

We also unpack how social media quietly creates invisible standards for who you should love, what that person should look like, and what kind of partnership is deemed acceptable or aspirational — often without us even realizing it.

If you've ever questioned your beliefs, felt overwhelmed by online narratives, or wanted to reclaim your own definitions of identity, attraction, and balance, this episode is for you.

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