Alexa can fix her car and parallel park like a pro. I avoid both like the plague. She's femme; I'm masc. But when it comes to gender norms, it's not that simple.

In this episode of Masc Off, we unpack the assumptions projected onto us in queer dating. Who’s supposed to initiate? Who pays the bill? Who’s the emotional one? We dive into the messy, hilarious, and frustrating ways masc/femme dynamics still mirror heteronormativity—and how we're trying to unlearn it.

Spoiler: Femme doesn’t mean passive. Masc doesn’t mean dominant. And I will never build your IKEA shelf ;)

Ever met someone and thought, "Do I want to be your best friend... or be more like you?"

In this episode of Masc Off, I dive into the soft, strange, and often confusing world of friend crushes - that magnetic pull toward someone that isn't romantic or sexual, but still feels deeply intimate.

I reflect on a friendship that blurred the lines between admiration and identity, exploring how friend crushes can become mirrors - showing us the part s of ourselves we've buried under masking, fear, and survival. Especially as queer and trans folks, these connections can awaken something powerful: the desire to finally be seen... by ourselves.

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In this episode of Masc Off, I confess to doing the most during my first time using a strap. I pretended I was a seasoned strap pro when in reality, I was a nervous masc with sweaty palms and zero aim. What followed was a Tom & Jerry level disaster involving awkward thrusts, self inflicted injury, and a cameo from casper the ghost.

A tale of overcompensating, unlearning shame, and realizing that even straps deserve a soft launch.

For queer-friendly strap-on resources and beginner kits, check out these body-safe shops and resources:

• A Guide To Stap-Ons
• Wild Flower
• Spectrum Boutique

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