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  • #15 HERE WE GO AGAIN!! Gottman Principle #6: Overcoming Gridlock

    #15 HERE WE GO AGAIN!! Gottman Principle #6: Overcoming Gridlock
    2025/08/11
    💙❤️Tired of having the SAME fight over and over again?? Tune in as Abe and Elaine discuss gridlock issues. This episode covers:
    🎯 Why 69% of conflicts in marriage are perpetual
    🎯 How to uncover the dreams hiding under the drama
    🎯 The 4 Gottman steps to get unstuck (without selling your soul to the thermostat war)
    🎯 A real-life example from one couple

    Whether it’s in-laws, money, chores, or Christmas plans, you can move from stuck to connected and compromise… even if you never totally agree.

    🎧 Listen now and find out how to turn “we’ll never agree” into “we actually understand each other.”
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    25 分
  • #14 ARE YOU THERE FOR ME? Emotional Responsiveness in Marriage

    #14 ARE YOU THERE FOR ME? Emotional Responsiveness in Marriage
    2025/02/26
    Join Abe and Elaine as they discuss emotional responsiveness in marriage. Sue Johnson, founder of EFT, found in her research that behind the tears in all marital conflict is the question we all yearn to know. ARE YOU THERE FOR ME? (A.R.E) Essentially we are all asking are you A- accessible, R- responsive, and E- engaged in this marriage or relationship? Of course Elaine and Abe put some fun spins on this. Join them for some laughs on the difference of men and women too.

    Go to instagram.com/marriage.isajoke and dm Elaine your email if you want the handout mentioned.

    Video mentioned called “It’s Not About the Nail”https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=-4EDhdAHrOg
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    39 分
  • #13 Solving Conflict! Gottman Principle #5

    #13 Solving Conflict! Gottman Principle #5
    2024/11/12
    Join Abe and Elaine as they discuss Gottman’s Principle #5 called “Solving Your Solvable Problems.” Conflict in marriage is inevitable! Thriving couples still have conflict. The Gottman research team has found that couples tend to have both Solvable and Gridlock problems. In this episode, Abe and Elaine go over the Gottman’s top tips of how to solve these solvable problems. Elaine and Abe are honest about how they too struggle with some dynamics in their own conflict. Stay tuned for our next episode where they go over how to get through the gridlock problems in principle #6!
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    32 分
  • #12 Baby Mouse Tears: How Crying Actually Helps Marriage!

    #12 Baby Mouse Tears: How Crying Actually Helps Marriage!
    2024/06/13
    Join Abe and Elaine as they discuss an interesting (but a little weird ) study about tears. 😢😢How crying becomes a natural way to slow down the intensity and anger in marital conflict. Link to check out the study: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/sniffing-womens-tears-makes-men-less-aggressive/ (https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/sniffing-womens-tears-makes-men-less-aggressive/)
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    26 分
  • #11 You Can’t Control Me! Gottman Principle #4

    #11 You Can’t Control Me! Gottman Principle #4
    2024/03/09
    Join Abe and Elaine as they discuss this awesome principle from the Gottman research! We never want to control each other in marriage. This creates a parent- child like relationship. However, our feelings and thoughts should INFLUENCE our partner’s decisions. Warning for Wives: Sadly, to Elaine’s chagrin …this episode led to Abe’s visions of buying a motorcycle!
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    33 分
  • #10 Naughty or Nice? Taking Care of Your Marriage at the Holidays!

    #10 Naughty or Nice? Taking Care of Your Marriage at the Holidays!
    2023/12/19
    Are you guilty of making the holidays all about your kids?? Don’t forget to celebrate your marriage and get a little Naughty or Nice! This short but sweet episode will get you into the mood of making sure your marriage gets the attention it deserves this Christmas. Watch out for that naughty Santa!
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    22 分
  • #9 You are Kenough! The Male Psyche & Your Marriage

    #9 You are Kenough! The Male Psyche & Your Marriage
    2023/09/01
    Did you know that men are socialized in our culture to repress certain emotions? As a result, this can lead to isolation, depression, and frustration in marriage. It's important that all men and boys know it's healthy for them to widen their range of emotions. It's also okay to express strength and toughness too! Join Abe and Elaine for a great discussion on the male psyche and how it manifests in marriage. It's crucial that our men and boys understand that their role matters, that their anger may be masking repressed pain, and that we value all their feelings—the good, the bad, and the ugly. Ultimately, the goal is for both partners to feel safe being open and vulnerable in their marriages and families.
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    37 分
  • #8 Discover the Key to a Life-Long Romance: Unlock Gottman's Third Principle - Turn Toward Your Spouse!

    #8 Discover the Key to a Life-Long Romance: Unlock Gottman's Third Principle - Turn Toward Your Spouse!
    2023/06/05
    Looking to keep your marriage thriving? 👫💖 Want to maintain that deep connection you felt when you first met? You might be surprised to learn that the secret isn't grand gestures or luxury gifts 🎁🎀, but rather in the day-to-day moments we often overlook 📆💡.

    Join us in our latest episode 🎧 as we delve into Gottman's insightful Third Principle, "Turn Toward Your Spouse" 💑💕. Discover how focusing on this principle can make a world of difference in sustaining a meaningful, long-lasting bond 🤝💘.

    Our podcast provides practical, easy-to-follow advice that can fit into your busy lives 🏃‍♂️🏃‍♀️. Whether it's a thoughtful conversation over breakfast ☕🥐, or a simple, shared smile during a stressful day 😊💫, we'll show you how these small moments can have a big impact.

    Because true love isn't just about being together, it's about consciously turning toward each other, every day 🔄❤️. So tune in, and let's explore how to find the extraordinary within the ordinary together 🌟🔍.
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    29 分