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Mailbag XXXVIII: When the Job You Need Starts Slipping Away | Workplace Performance, Difficult Bosses, Professional Reputation, and Job Anxiety

Mailbag XXXVIII: When the Job You Need Starts Slipping Away | Workplace Performance, Difficult Bosses, Professional Reputation, and Job Anxiety

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What do you do when you finally land the job you desperately needed, then begin wondering whether you’re about to lose it? How do you repair your reputation at work when your supervisor seems to dislike you, assignments are going wrong, and every mistake feels financially catastrophic? And when your livelihood depends on keeping the job, how do you stop fear itself from making your performance worse? In Mailbag XXXVIII of The Observable Unknown, Dr. Juan Carlos Rey responds to Michael L., a listener who landed an excellent new position only a few months ago but now feels as though the opportunity is slipping away. Michael says he’s dropping the ball on assignments, struggling with the person he reports to, and becoming frightened about what job loss would mean financially. He’s working as hard as he can. It doesn’t seem to be helping. His question is direct: What would you do if you were me? Dr. Rey begins with an unexpected answer: Stop trying to impress them. Once confidence in an employee begins to deteriorate, spectacular effort is rarely what repairs the relationship. What people need next is something much simpler: predictability. Michael’s fear has also combined several problems that need to be separated. There’s his actual job performance. There’s his relationship with his supervisor. And there’s the financial terror attached to losing the position. Those problems affect one another, but they aren’t identical. That distinction matters because, as Dr. Rey often teaches: Different states make different decisions. When every workplace mistake becomes mentally connected to unemployment, financial collapse, or homelessness, a normal email can begin feeling like a threat to survival. A correction starts sounding like a termination notice. A delayed response from a supervisor becomes evidence. A difficult facial expression becomes a verdict. Someone can begin working harder while thinking less clearly. The first task, then, is to separate present workplace problems from imagined future catastrophe. Dr. Rey also challenges Michael’s belief that his supervisor simply doesn’t like him. That may be true. It may not be. More useful than guessing about another person’s private opinion is asking: What experience does this person repeatedly have when work enters my hands? Do they have to chase for updates? Do they discover problems too late? Are assignments misunderstood? Does Michael agree to work before he fully understands what’s being requested? Does he spend hours completing something that turns out not to be what his supervisor expected? These problems can begin as performance issues and gradually become relational problems. One missed deadline is an event. Repeated missed deadlines can become a reputation. At first: “Michael missed the deadline.” Later: “Michael can’t be relied upon.” That shift sits at the center of this Mailbag. Dr. Rey connects it to his framework of Narrative Architecture: Plot is what happens. Story is how what happens changes relationships. A missed deadline is plot. A supervisor deciding, “I can’t trust Michael with this,” is story. The answer isn’t to argue with the story. It’s to create enough new evidence that the old story becomes harder to maintain. Dr. Rey recommends that Michael request a short, direct meeting with his supervisor. Not a dramatic confession. Not a defense of his character. Not a long explanation about stress, finances, or how hard he’s been trying. Instead: “I know my execution hasn’t been where it needs to be, and I want to correct that quickly. What are the two or three things you most need to see from me over the next few weeks?” Then listen. What matters most? Where is the friction? What needs earlier communication? What does the supervisor currently have to monitor because Michael owns it? The goal isn’t to become more likable. It’s to become easier to trust. From there, Dr. Rey recommends what he calls a reliability campaign. For the next several weeks, Michael shouldn’t try to become dazzling. He should become boringly dependable. Clarify assignments before beginning them. Confirm deadlines. Write down deliverables. Break larger projects into visible checkpoints. Communicate potential delays before the deadline instead of after it. And whenever a problem is brought to the supervisor, bring a proposed response with it. Instead of: “We have an issue.” Try: “We have an issue. Here’s what caused it, here’s what I’ve done, and here’s what I recommend next.” That small change alters the experience of working with someone. The episode also examines a painful mistake many anxious employees make: confusing effort with effectiveness. Michael may genuinely be working as hard as he possibly can. But if harder work isn’t improving performance, harder work may not be the answer. He may need clearer sequencing. Earlier questions. Fewer simultaneous priorities. Better tracking. More ...
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