In this episode of Awaken with Oliver, Oliver sits down with Kenya K. Stevens – self‑proclaimed best love coach on the planet, love shaman, and divorce stopper – to radically rethink what marriage, relationships, and commitment really mean. Kenya shares her five foundational principles for a thriving partnership and explains why ownership, shame, and blame have no place in modern love.

Topics Discussed:

• The five base principles of a strong marriage: no shame and blame, no victims or villains, no cop‑outs or dropouts, purpose is growth (benefit is love), and “I create my life”
• Why open marriage won’t make you happy – but ownership‑based monogamy won’t either
• The three parts of the self: animal (feelings), ego (storyteller), higher self (solution‑finder)
• How to stop shaming and blaming your partner by recognising you’re looking at a reflection of yourself

Episode Highlights:

[00:00:03] – Kenya K. Stevens introduces herself: “I’m the best love coach on the planet. I stop divorces.”

[00:00:14] – How she stops divorces: changing the underpinnings of marriage – no more ownership of another human

[00:00:31] – Why an open marriage will not make anyone happy (and what actually works)

[00:01:52] – The five principles of Kenya’s own marriage: no shame, no blame, no victims, no villains, no cop‑outs, no dropouts

[00:02:55] – Oliver’s observation: 30‑year‑olds getting married, having kids, and becoming unhappy – they don’t even like each other anymore

[00:05:18] – The “up‑level” system: every challenge in your relationship is a reflection of yourself

[00:07:45] – Breaking down the animal, ego, and higher self

[00:09:30] – Can a submissive man become dominant again after years of being the “little bitch”?

[00:11:14] – The alpha woman who wants her man to lead but can’t stop leading herself – can she truly submit?

[00:12:32] – The pattern: a submissive husband often had a dominant mother

[00:13:04] – Polyamory and jealousy: why higher self solves jealousy, but ego never will

[00:14:25] – Humans are hardwired for community

[00:15:34] – The third option beyond animal urge and intellectual control: higher self

[00:16:22] – “It takes a village” – and why one person can never give you everything you need

[00:17:06] – When kids are involved: community becomes even more necessary, not less

[00:18:20] – 40‑60% marriage failure rate for 80 years

[00:20:15] – Oliver’s personal journey: polyamory or just searching for one real connection?

[00:22:53] – Kenya’s final message if she had one day left to live: “I’ve been here since the beginning of time. Death is not real. Live as if you are infinite.”

[00:23:18] – Kenya’s advice to Oliver: “Take my course. The paradigm shift will be unreal.”

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