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In this episode of Love and Life, Sorted, Dr. Sandy To dives deep into one of the most debated dating questions: “Should women make the first move?”

Drawing from classic advice in "The Rules" by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider (why letting men pursue women matters) and modern insights from "Date-onomics" and “Make Your Move” by Jon Birger (why empowered women need to be more proactive in today's competitive market), Dr. To shares a balanced "yes AND no" approach.

Learn practical tips: Wait for clear signs of interest from him first, then reciprocate enthusiastically to encourage pursuit—without chasing. Discover why high-achieving women intimidate men, how demographics stack the odds, and the power of "opening the door a crack" for real connection.

Plus, the ultimate real-life example: How Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce turned a missed bracelet moment into an epic love story by blending traditional pursuit with timely reciprocation.

If you're navigating modern dating, wondering why good men aren't approaching, or seeking strategies to find lasting love—this episode is for you. Timeless wisdom meets 2025 reality for better relationships.

#ShouldWomenMakeTheFirstMove #DatingAdviceForWomen #ModernDating #TaylorSwiftTravisKelce #TheRulesDating #Dateonomics #WomenInDating #RelationshipAdvice #LoveAndLifeSorted #DatingTips2025 #FindLastingLove #EmpoweredWomenDating #TaylorSwiftKelce #PursuitInDating #DatingStrategy

🔑 Key Topics:

• Should women make the first move
• Dating advice for women
• The Rules book vs modern dating
• Date-onomics and gender ratios in dating
• Why men get intimidated by successful women
• Signs of genuine male interest
• How to reciprocate without chasing
• Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce relationship story
• Modern marriage market challenges
• Encouraging men to pursue you

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Are you feeling stuck in your job, drained by overwork, or wondering what’s next in mid-career or as you approach retirement?

In this episode of Love & Life Sorted, Dr. Sandy To shares her raw experience attending the exclusive pilot “Designing Your Work Life” workshop in Hong Kong – based on the New York Times bestselling book Designing Your Life by Stanford professors Bill Burnett & Dave Evans.

You’ll discover:

• Why the end of the year is the perfect time for a total life & career reset
• The biggest differences between classic self-help/motivational books and real design-thinking tools
• How to solve problems “like a designer”
• Why you must throw away your first idea
• Why artists and creatives feel lonely – and how to combat it
• The power of “no judgment” brainstorming and building bold prototypes
• How to align your Work View & Life View so work energizes instead of drains you

If you’ve ever wanted practical, actionable steps to redesign your career and life, this episode is for you.

#DesigningYourLife #LifeDesign #CareerPivot #MidCareerCrisis #WorkLifeBalance #CareerChange #EndOfYearReset #StanfordMethod #StanfordLifeDesignLab #DesignThinking #LifeReset #FindYourPurpose #FulfillmentAtWork #Self-fulfillment #PersonalDevelopment

In this episode:

Designing Your Life – Bill Burnett & Dave Evans → https://www.amazon.com/Designing-Your-Life-Well-Lived-Joyful/dp/1101875321

Designing Your Work Life → https://www.amazon.com/Designing-Your-Work-Life-Happiness/dp/0525655247

Official site: https://designingyour.life

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Which type of woman are you when it comes to love, career, and marriage? In this episode, Dr. Sandy To breaks down the 4 female archetypes in today’s dating world: Traditionalist, Maximizer, Satisficer, and Innovator – and reveals exactly how each type approaches finding a partner, money, career, and family. Discover why some women happily become housewives only if the husband is the breadwinner (Traditionalist); the proactive “Maximizer” women who are more strategic and proactive in finding high-value men (even older, divorced, or cross-cultural); “Satisficer” women who become the breadwinner and expect total equality (think Hermione Granger & Ron) and “Innovator” women who are looking for companionate relationships more than marriage and are fine raising kids solo (Rachel Green style).

Perfect for single women, married women reassessing their relationship, or anyone confused about modern dating dynamics.

💡Figure out your type (or hybrid) and stop choosing the wrong partners! Take the What's Your Type Quiz at: https://www.sandyto.com/types-quiz and share your results on our Instagram page @drsandyto.podcast.

#4TypesOfWomen #DatingAdvice #ModernDating #MarriageGoals #TraditionalWife #FemaleBreadwinner #HighValueMan #RelationshipAdvice #LoveAndCareer #SingleMomByChoice #HermioneGranger #RachelGreen #AmyMarch #JessicaHuang #DatingStrategy #WomenInTheir30s #KnowYourType #EgalitarianMarriage #Hypergamy #CareerWoman #LoveAndLifeSorted

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Hit the subscribe button 🔔 so you don't miss an episode of Love & Life, Sorted - for your weekly dose of no-BS chats on relationships, family life, self-growth, and modern dating. Follow @drsandyto.podcast on Instagram for more conversation and fun stuff! 🤩 New episodes every Tuesday!

• Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drsandyto.podcast/
• Find out your type: https://www.sandyto.com/types-quiz
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