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In this vulnerable episode, we pick up our story in September 2023—a month marked by emotional extremes, deep spiritual wrestling, and pivotal moments in our healing journey after betrayal trauma.

Avonlea opens up about her darkest night—grappling with suicidal thoughts and the heavy weight of relational trauma. Josh shares what early recovery and international travel were like while battling sex addiction and learning to build real emotional connection for the first time.

Together, we discuss:

• Everything you think you know about addiction is wrong
• Struggles with communication and the FASTT check-in tool (from Stop Sex Addiction)
• The emotional toll of sexual betrayal and fears around sexual reintegration
• How God’s truth and professional support pulled us through
• Powerful insights from books like The Betrayal Bind, The Great Sex Rescue, and Calling in the One

This episode is for anyone navigating the depths of trauma recovery, addiction healing, or the lonely places where faith, love, and despair collide. Our prayer is that you feel seen and supported—and know that you are never walking this road alone.

🙏 We pray for you daily—your healing matters.

📖 Resources:

SAMHSA National Helpline: Call 1-800-662-HELP (4357) for confidential treatment referral and information about mental and/or substance use disorders. This line is available 24/7 in English and Spanish.

988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Call or text 988 for free and confidential support for people in suicidal or emotional distress. This hotline is available 24/7.

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In this episode, we invite you into a raw, God-centered conversation about what it means to cast a vision for a new kind of love. You’ll hear Avonlea’s personal journal entries from “Calling in the One,” and the cautious moments of reuniting in person after weeks apart. Whether you're healing your marriage or your own heart, we pray this episode brings clarity, hope, and encouragement.

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In this episode, we return to the raw and painful moments of August 2023—the second month in our healing journey. We talk about the impossible odds of saving our marriage after betrayal, the emotional weight of therapeutic separation, and the heart-wrenching process of rebuilding from ground zero. From moments of profound spiritual insight—like a lakeside baptism and the realization of hidden idols—to crushing lows marked by loneliness, fear, and exhaustion, this episode pulls back the curtain on the intense work of healing. We also reflect on what true intimacy means, the trauma of broken trust, and the quiet, relentless hope that somehow, even this can be redeemed.

If you’ve made it this far with us, we’d love to hear what’s been most helpful to you. Message us on Instagram or Facebook @loveafterliespodcast, or text us anonymously—we’re honored to walk this road with you.

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In a spiritual context, a "sacred wound" refers to a deep, transformative trauma or suffering that, instead of being a source of negativity, becomes a catalyst for growth, healing, and a deeper connection with the divine or oneself.

When God creates Eve, He calls her an “ezer kenegdo.” That’s the word used in the original Hebrew in Genesis 2:18. Turns out, this phrase is notoriously difficult to translate into English.

Josh and Avonlea discuss how these two important topics influenced their healing journey.

Calling in "The One" Revised and Expanded: 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life

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Josh and Avonlea dive deeper into their journey of recovery and healing and share some of the resources that helped them navigate through the process.

Affair Recovery "The Shocking Truth About Trust"

Affair Recovery First Steps Bootcamp

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Full Disclosure: How to Share the Truth After Sexual Betrayal

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Josh and Avonlea share more details about their journey and specifics about how they handled the first month after D Day.

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In this episode, Avonlea and Josh talk about trauma and betrayal trauma, as well as a lesser known subject: post traumatic growth.

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Josh and Avonlea share what they have learned about lust, sex, and addiction, and how that knowledge empowered them on their journey of healing and recovery.