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  • Breaking Free From Shame-Based Parenting Through Biblical Grace

    Breaking Free From Shame-Based Parenting Through Biblical Grace
    2026/10/08
    How does viewing yourself as a saint instead of a sinner change how you parent? In this episode, Bill and Scott discuss how viewing yourself as a sinner, rather than a saint who sins, causes parents to parent out of shame and fear. This can lead parents to focus on compliance and behavioral control. As a result, children tend to respond by losing trust and developing resentment. Scott and Bill share a different, and Biblical, perspective by embracing God's truth of being a saint who is dead to sin. This allows parents to stop managing behavior, build deep trust, and extend genuine love to their children. Topics Bill Thrall and Scott Boyd discuss in this episode: (00:40) The difference between defining yourself as a sinner versus a saint who sins. (02:39) Bill describes how a theology based on self-control and willpower can convince parents that they are masters of their own behavior, ultimately allowing shame to define them. (06:38) Parents who do not trust themselves may parent from authority and raise children toward compliance rather than helping them mature into healthy adults. (10:22) How shame creates contradictory messages—telling people to try harder while simultaneously convincing them they will never be enough—and how this dynamic can affect parenting. (13:15) Hiding standardizes distrust, which prevents children from experiencing true parental love. This episode was brought to you by Bill Thrall, Scott Boyd, and the Living Influence team. Learn about Living Influence: https://www.livinginfluence.com/ Subscribe to the Living Influence podcast: * YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@LivingInfluencePodcast * Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/4kP9Mm2 * Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2F2RSvXKfU08Q5LVTCyIYI Learn about Bill Thrall’s books: https://www.livinginfluence.com/books Follow and like the Living Influence podcast on social media: * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/livinginfluencepodcast * TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@livinginfluencepodcast * Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/61576202821527 This episode was produced by Story On Media: https://www.storyon.co/
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    16 分
  • The Greatest Gift You Can Give Your Children

    The Greatest Gift You Can Give Your Children
    2026/10/01
    Are your rules helping your children mature or keeping them dependent? In this episode, Bill and Scott talk about the vital distinction between child compliance, enforced by rules, and heart-level obedience rooted in trust. They discuss how parenting can gradually move from protecting children with rules toward giving them guidelines, choices, responsibility, and opportunities to participate in their own development. By fostering authentic trust, and allowing children to participate in choices and consequences, parents can guide their children toward true freedom, maturity, and healthy identity. Topics Bill Thrall and Scott Boyd discuss in this episode: (00:04) Whether children should be compliant or obedient. (02:38) How parenting should gradually move from rules to guidelines. (05:07) Obedience means acting upon the love, trust, and guidance of someone who is trusted. (08:33) Develop, rather than squash, children's individual tastes. (14:49) How guidelines can include consequences while allowing children to participate in determining those consequences, helping them take greater ownership of their choices. (16:11) Freedom is a byproduct of obedience, and grace is experienced through trust. This episode was brought to you by Bill Thrall, Scott Boyd, and the Living Influence team. Learn about Living Influence: https://www.livinginfluence.com/ Subscribe to the Living Influence podcast: * YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@LivingInfluencePodcast * Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/4kP9Mm2 * Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2F2RSvXKfU08Q5LVTCyIYI Learn about Bill Thrall’s books: https://www.livinginfluence.com/books Follow and like the Living Influence podcast on social media: * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/livinginfluencepodcast * TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@livinginfluencepodcast * Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/61576202821527 This episode was produced by Story On Media: https://www.storyon.co/
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    20 分
  • Why Parenting Feels So Exhausting (And How God Brings Freedom)

    Why Parenting Feels So Exhausting (And How God Brings Freedom)
    2026/09/24
    What is defining you right now? Your shame, or what God says about you? In this episode, Bill and Scott explore how shame can become a defining force in a parent’s life, producing exhaustion, isolation, defensiveness, and a constant need to justify being right. They talk about how parents can move from being defined by shame and condemnation to living in the freedom God provides. They discuss the importance of trusting that believers have died with Christ, received a “new heart” and the Holy Spirit, giving them freedom to be known and loved, rather than remaining hidden and protected. Parents can now live in grace, forgiveness, and who God says they are, so they can love and nurture their children from a place of freedom. Topics Bill Thrall and Scott Boyd discuss in this episode: (01:31) The Biblical promise of no condemnation and why many believers still let shame define their daily lives. (04:45) Shame is an exhausting master that creates a need to be justified, and robs people of joy. (06:36) Believers must recognize that they died with Christ. Shame and sin then lose their authority when a person embraces that reality. (10:03) How the Holy Spirit dwelling within believers provides a power over sin that self-effort cannot achieve. (12:28) How practicing quick forgiveness prevents past hurts from triggering shame and returning to a life of condemnation. (14:22) Live the Christian life defined not by how little they sin, but by God and for the benefit of others. This episode was brought to you by Bill Thrall, Scott Boyd, and the Living Influence team. Learn about Living Influence: https://www.livinginfluence.com/ Subscribe to the Living Influence podcast: * YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@LivingInfluencePodcast * Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/4kP9Mm2 * Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2F2RSvXKfU08Q5LVTCyIYI Learn about Bill Thrall’s books: https://www.livinginfluence.com/books Follow and like the Living Influence podcast on social media: * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/livinginfluencepodcast * TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@livinginfluencepodcast * Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/61576202821527 This episode was produced by Story On Media: https://www.storyon.co/
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    16 分
  • How Your Children Reveal Unresolved Issues and Shame

    How Your Children Reveal Unresolved Issues and Shame
    2026/09/17
    Are your children's reactions revealing unresolved issues within you? Children often expose the unresolved issues and shame that parents carry, making parenting an unexpected opportunity for personal maturity and growth. In this episode, Bill and Scott discuss how listening, trusting God, and confronting the roots of shame can transform the way parents respond to their children. Parents can mature, rather than reacting defensively or passing blame onto them. Scott and Bill also share how forgiving yourself and others will break the cycle of shame by trusting God with your own brokenness. This allows parents to relate to their children with freedom, trust, and emotional healing. Topics Bill Thrall and Scott Boyd discuss in this episode: (01:40) Scott shares how repeating his son's words back to him helped diffuse arguments and build trust. (03:00) Children have a unique way of exposing a parent's unresolved shame and internal issues. (07:41) Parents need to live out who God says they are, rather than allowing past shame to define them. (12:34) How shame is connected to unresolved pain. Encouragement to forgive those who hurt you, and forgiving yourself for your past actions. This episode was brought to you by Bill Thrall, Scott Boyd, and the Living Influence team. Learn about Living Influence: https://www.livinginfluence.com/ Subscribe to the Living Influence podcast: * YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@LivingInfluencePodcast * Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/4kP9Mm2 * Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2F2RSvXKfU08Q5LVTCyIYI Learn about Bill Thrall’s books: https://www.livinginfluence.com/books Follow and like the Living Influence podcast on social media: * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/livinginfluencepodcast * TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@livinginfluencepodcast * Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/61576202821527 This episode was produced by Story On Media: https://www.storyon.co/
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    16 分
  • How to Raise Children Who Trust God, Not Just Know the Bible

    How to Raise Children Who Trust God, Not Just Know the Bible
    2026/09/10
    Do your children see you trusting and living out the truth you teach them? In this episode, Bill and Scott challenge parents to move beyond behavior modification and focus instead on building trust that opens a child's heart to truth. They discuss how parents must personally experience and act upon the truth they teach so it can be authentically passed down to the next generation. Additionally, parents need to allow God to heal their own wounds and regrets, so they can become vehicles of healing for their children. God's grace can break destructive generational patterns and create a different future for the generations that follow. Topics Bill Thrall and Scott Boyd discuss in this episode: (01:28) Why an important part of parenting is maturing a child rather than using behavioral techniques to control behavior. (04:18) Bill discusses the danger of teaching children biblical knowledge without helping them develop genuine trust in the truth being taught. (05:51) How trust opens the heart to receiving truth that genuinely transforms a person. (08:14) Parents help children trust truth by actively modeling that they believe that truth, and have acted upon that truth themselves. (11:32) How the miracle of forgiveness and repentance breaks generational patterns of dysfunction. This episode was brought to you by Bill Thrall, Scott Boyd, and the Living Influence team. Learn about Living Influence: https://www.livinginfluence.com/ Subscribe to the Living Influence podcast: * YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@LivingInfluencePodcast * Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/4kP9Mm2 * Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2F2RSvXKfU08Q5LVTCyIYI Learn about Bill Thrall’s books: https://www.livinginfluence.com/books Follow and like the Living Influence podcast on social media: * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/livinginfluencepodcast * TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@livinginfluencepodcast * Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/61576202821527 This episode was produced by Story On Media: https://www.storyon.co/
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    16 分
  • Why Your Children Need to Know the Real You

    Why Your Children Need to Know the Real You
    2026/09/03
    How do you think your child would respond if you were more honest with them about your own imperfections? In this episode, Bill and Scott begin a new parenting series by asking a foundational question: Do your children trust you? They explore why trust grows when parents are willing to be known, honest about their imperfections, and intentional about earning relational access, rather than only exercising authority. Scott and Bill challenge parents to prioritize connection, share their stories, ask permission to speak into their children's lives, and become people their children can trust enough to receive love, truth, and guidance. Topics Bill Thrall and Scott Boyd discuss in this episode: (00:22) One of the greatest gifts a parent can give a child is becoming someone they can trust. (03:57) The common fear parents hold about admitting past mistakes to their children. (06:28) Children do not need perfect parents, but need to see how their parents deal with imperfection. (09:09) How Jesus laid aside His authority to be known as a person serves as a model for authentic parenting. (15:54) This kind of parenting requires time, intentionality, and a willingness to prioritize children within the life a parent is living. This episode was brought to you by Bill Thrall, Scott Boyd, and the Living Influence team. Learn about Living Influence: https://www.livinginfluence.com/ Subscribe to the Living Influence podcast: * YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@LivingInfluencePodcast * Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/4kP9Mm2 * Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2F2RSvXKfU08Q5LVTCyIYI Learn about Bill Thrall’s books: https://www.livinginfluence.com/books Follow and like the Living Influence podcast on social media: * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/livinginfluencepodcast * TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@livinginfluencepodcast * Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/61576202821527 This episode was produced by Story On Media: https://www.storyon.co/
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    18 分
  • The Hidden Responsibility That Comes with Influence

    The Hidden Responsibility That Comes with Influence
    2026/08/27
    Are you willing to ask the people you influence how you are affecting them? Each of us has influence, and healthy leadership begins with having the courage to own that influence by asking others how they are being affected. Bill and Scott explore how leaders can protect the people they influence by standing alongside them when their weaknesses and limitations become visible rather than allowing those limitations to define them. They also discuss how creating relational safety can help people honestly examine their experiences, learn difficult lessons, and preserve the strengths that make them valuable. Topics Bill Thrall and Scott Boyd discuss in this episode: (01:22) Everyone has influence and that influence is best measured by the effect a person has on others. (04:48) Owning influence means being willing to receive honest feedback, honor the courage it takes to give that feedback, and respond wisely rather than defensively. (07:59) People will often hide their limitations when they do not believe they will be protected, causing those limitations to eventually emerge through dysfunction. (10:51) How leaders can come alongside people after they make mistakes by separating the person's behavior from the relationship. (15:01) Bringing individuals to a neutral setting, outside the workplace, to reflect on difficult experiences together. This episode was brought to you by Bill Thrall, Scott Boyd, and the Living Influence team. Learn about Living Influence: https://www.livinginfluence.com/ Subscribe to the Living Influence podcast: * YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@LivingInfluencePodcast * Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/4kP9Mm2 * Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2F2RSvXKfU08Q5LVTCyIYI Learn about Bill Thrall’s books: https://www.livinginfluence.com/books Follow and like the Living Influence podcast on social media: * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/livinginfluencepodcast * TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@livinginfluencepodcast * Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/61576202821527 This episode was produced by Story On Media: https://www.storyon.co/
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    19 分
  • Why Your Unmet Expectations Create Pain and Conflict

    Why Your Unmet Expectations Create Pain and Conflict
    2026/08/20
    How are hidden expectations creating unseen conflict and emotional reactions in your interactions? In this episode, Bill and Scott explore how unacknowledged and unmet expectations create relational conflict and emotional disappointment. While expectations are a reality in humans, some become demands that are usually defended as “right”. They discuss creating safe spaces for honest conversation, and moving from a “me” to a “we” mindset. Scott and Bill challenge us to reframe individual demands into shared goals. Topics Bill Thrall and Scott Boyd discuss in this episode: (01:19) Expectations are an innate part of being human, but unmet expectations are a major source of wounding and pain. (02:54) How we can build trust by becoming honest about our expectations while avoiding the temptation to declare those expectations right. (05:03) Shifting from discussing individual expectations of one another to discussing shared expectations. (12:40) How hidden expectations remain unspoken, continue to produce disappointment, and can eventually create dysfunction in relationships. (18:02) Relational freedom does not mean eliminating disappointment, but learning to face the disappointments caused by unmet expectations together. This episode was brought to you by Bill Thrall, Scott Boyd, and the Living Influence team. Learn about Living Influence: https://www.livinginfluence.com/ Subscribe to the Living Influence podcast: * YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@LivingInfluencePodcast * Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/4kP9Mm2 * Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2F2RSvXKfU08Q5LVTCyIYI Learn about Bill Thrall’s books: https://www.livinginfluence.com/books Follow and like the Living Influence podcast on social media: * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/livinginfluencepodcast * TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@livinginfluencepodcast * Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/61576202821527 This episode was produced by Story On Media: https://www.storyon.co/
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    22 分