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Grief can feel heavy enough on its own, then life keeps demanding that you function like nothing happened. I’m Gina Gonzalez, and I’m introducing a practical grief framework to guide your healing journey: The Dual Process Model of Coping.

According to this model, there are two modes of coping: loss-oriented coping and restoration-oriented coping. Loss-oriented coping is the part of grieving that leans into the emotional reality of the death. Whereas restoration-oriented coping is the forward-facing work of rebuilding and creating a “new life” after loss. We also talk honestly about why “balance” is through oscillation; switching back and forth between the two modes can maximize your ability to cope with grief.

You’ll also hear a wide range of concrete coping strategies, from grief counseling and memory making to self-care, identity shifts, new goals, and community support. We highlight Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month and the significance of October 15th to the perinatal loss community.

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Coming home without your baby can take your breath away, and sometimes the first thing you notice isn’t tears, it’s numbness. I talk through why that shutdown can be protective, what it might be telling you, and how self-care and self-compassion become essential parts of perinatal bereavement, whether your loss was recent or years ago. If you’ve ever wondered why you feel detached, overwhelmed, or like you’re just going through the motions, you’re not broken. You’re responding to something devastating.

From there, I break down five coping styles in plain language: problem-focused coping, emotion-focused coping, meaning-focused coping, social coping, and maladaptive coping. We look at the “secondary losses” such as relationship strain, changes in intimacy, financial stress, and the pain of triggers at appointments or in daily routines. I share practical ways to reduce pressure, create gentle plans, and build a go-to list of coping tools you can actually use when your bandwidth is low.

We also talk about meaning, faith, and the complicated reality of support spaces. Peer groups and online communities can help, but they can also overwhelm, and social media algorithms can be brutal with baby-related content. I share boundary ideas that protect your heart while you heal. We close with self-compassion, releasing guilt, softening self-blame, and reminding ourselves the loss is not our fault.

If you have a topic you’d like me to cover on the podcast, or if you would like to share your creative coping strategies to help our listeners, I’d love to hear from you. Please contact me by:

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Grief after pregnancy loss or infant loss can feel like you’re carrying a life-altering truth in a world that wants you to stay quiet. We open with a clear, compassionate look at different kinds of perinatal loss, including miscarriage, stillbirth, termination for medical reasons, and neonatal deaths. We name something that hurts many families: comparison narratives that imply one loss should be “easier” than another. We hold firm to a simple truth here, every loss has value, every story has nuance, and no one needs to prove their pain.

We visit a traditional grief model and how it is described. Grief stages are not a checklist, and they do not arrive in a neat order. We briefly talk through the stages. One stage that is often emphasized is acceptance. It comes in its own timeline, and we say it plainly: there is no standard timeline for grief.

To move from labeling feelings to finding footholds, we touch on later grief ideas like testing new coping strategies and making meaning after loss. We also share why I’m passionate about expanding playing a role in introducing the topic of perinatal loss into natural conversations beyond the loss community.

If you have a topic you’d like me to cover on the podcast, or if you would like to share your creative coping strategies to help our listeners, I’d love to hear from you. Please contact me by:

Email- gina@moderncounselingsolutions.com

Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/moderncounselingsolutions

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These episodes are fueled by sunshine and plenty of coffee. If you want to help keep the coffee coming, you can support the show by visiting this website: buymeacoffee.com/ginagonzalez