Boundaries aren't about controlling other people—they're about honoring yourself. In this episode, Jill explores why boundaries can feel so difficult, especially for people who have experienced trauma, people-pleasing, toxic relationships, or insecure attachment. She shares personal stories about learning to hold boundaries in both her marriage and professional life, explains why discomfort is often a sign that a boundary needs attention, and offers practical strategies for strengthening your "boundary muscle." If you've ever struggled to say no, felt guilty for putting yourself first, or found yourself repeatedly moving the line for others, this episode will help you begin creating healthier, more respectful relationships—starting with the one you have with yourself.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Notice discomfort
• Get clear – what do you want?
• Pause…
• Take small steps
• Expect pushback
• Practice, practice, practice

BEST MOMENTS

Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others. – Brené Brown

Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously. –Nedra Glover Tawwab

No is a complete sentence. –Anne Lamott

Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me at the same time. –Prentis Hemphill

No is a complete sentence. – Anne Lamott

Every time you're given a choice between disappointing someone else and disappointing yourself, your job is to disappoint someone else. –Glennon Doyle

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

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ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: info@locatecoaching.com

In this episode of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving, Jill explores one of the most difficult challenges after betrayal, toxic relationships, and heartbreak: learning to trust again. She unpacks how childhood attachment styles shape our ability to trust, why betrayal often damages trust in ourselves as much as trust in others, and how trauma can make connection feel risky.

Through personal stories, practical examples, and actionable strategies, Jill shares how to rebuild trust slowly, set healthy boundaries, recognize trustworthy behavior, and reconnect with your own inner wisdom.

This episode is a compassionate reminder that trust isn't built through words—it's built through patterns, actions, consistency, and learning to listen to yourself again.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Trust is earned through action and consistency, not words
• Trust is a pattern – not an on/off switch
• Boundaries strengthens trust
• Trust small before you trust big
• Identify your own patterns

BEST MOMENTS

When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time. –Maya Angelou

Trust is built in very small moments. – Brené Brown

You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. –Eleanor Roosevelt

I have met myself and I am going to care for her fiercely. –Glennon Doyle

Trust your instincts. Intuition doesn't lie. –Oprah Winfrey

VALUABLE RESOURCES

If you're struggling in a relationship and wondering if it might be controlling, you're not alone. Download my free guide at locatecoaching.com/freegift to help you find clarity and confidence.

EPISODES TO CHECK OUT NEXT

Check out other episodes of Life After: From Surviving to Thriving:

https://sites.libsyn.com/460833/site

ABOUT THE HOST

Jill McKnight is a mindset coach and speaker as well as an Erickson Professional Certified Coach. She specializes in supporting those who are rebuilding their lives and finding their most aligned path forward.

Jill knows that the tips and tricks in each episode work – because she's used them to change her life and her clients have used them to change their lives! Jill has the education and life experience to help you rebuild your life, whatever the circumstances… and move from surviving to thriving!

Through her talks, events, programs, and podcast "Life After: From Surviving to Thriving", Jill provides her clients with a unique mix of thoughtful guidance and sincere care. She lives in a small town in Washington with her son and is committed to co-create a world with more hope, connection, and healing for us all.

CONNECT & CONTACT

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@locatecoaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/locatecoaching/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwEImRGJXX4hrdS_NM3wWXg

Email: info@locatecoaching.com