In this episode, EG opens up about the loneliness of surviving; how trauma doesn’t just take something from you, it leaves you with the aftershocks long after. She talks about the story of Kayla Malec and dives deep into the different kinds of loneliness survivors face: the grief for the person you were before, the disconnect from the world around you, and the complicated feelings toward the version of you that did what she had to do to survive.

It’s not clean. It’s not linear. But you’re not alone in it.

Trigger Warning: This podcast discusses sexual violence. See the episode description for more information. Please take care of yourself when listening.

Lux Resources is a North Carolina-based 501(c)3 nonprofit that supports survivors of sexual violence through providing legal resources. Survivors can access resources and legal aid for free on our website, www.luxresources.org.

Follow Lux on Instagram and TikTok @luxresources for behind-the-scenes content, episode updates, and more tips on supporting survivors and allies.

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In this episode, EG dives into the worst questions survivors get asked, and why so many of them miss the mark. From the straight-up harmful to the shockingly common, she unpacks the assumptions behind questions like “What were you wearing?” and “Are you sure that’s what happened?” and talks about how curiosity, concern, or even good intentions can still cause harm when we’re not being mindful.

She shares her own experiences, reflections from listeners, and a few actually helpful things you can say instead. Whether you're a survivor who’s felt dismissed or an ally who wants to do better, this episode is both a call-in and a call-out.

If you've ever been on the receiving end of a “but why didn’t you fight back?” or wondered what not to say to someone who’s been through trauma, this one’s for you.

Trigger Warning: This podcast discusses sexual violence. See the episode description for more information. Please take care of yourself when listening.

Lux Resources is a North Carolina-based 501(c)3 nonprofit that supports survivors of sexual violence through providing legal resources. Survivors can access resources and legal aid for free on our website, www.luxresources.org.

Follow Lux on Instagram and TikTok @luxresources for behind-the-scenes content, episode updates, and more tips on supporting survivors and allies.

Want to get in touch? Ideas for resources to add to the website? Podcast content suggestions? Reach out to us: https://www.luxresources.org/contact

In this episode, EG talks about forgiveness after trauma—specifically after sexual violence—and all the pressure that can come with it. There’s this idea that forgiving the person who hurt you is the key to healing, but she doesn’t think it’s that simple.

She shares some of her own story and thoughts on what forgiveness has (and hasn’t) looked like for her and why she thinks we need to give survivors more space to figure that out for themselves. If you’ve ever felt like you should forgive but didn’t want to—or weren’t ready—this episode is for you.

Trigger Warning: This podcast discusses sexual violence. See the episode description for more information. Please take care of yourself when listening.

Lux Resources is a North Carolina-based 501(c)3 nonprofit that supports survivors of sexual violence through providing legal resources. Survivors can access resources and legal aid for free on our website, www.luxresources.org.

Follow Lux on Instagram and TikTok @luxresources for behind-the-scenes content, episode updates, and more tips on supporting survivors and allies.

Want to get in touch? Ideas for resources to add to the website? Podcast content suggestions? Reach out to us: https://www.luxresources.org/contact