In this first episode of our Overcoming series, Dave and Bethlie discuss the topic of Anger.

Overcoming Anger

Quote: We are a society addicted to outrage. Martin Wickens

In the social media world, outrage generates more "clicks" and ad revenue than anything else

1. What does the Bible say about anger?
   1. Various words are used
      1. Anger
      2. Angry
      3. Wrath
   2. Be ye angry and sin not, let not the sun go down on your wrath
   3. Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamour and evil speaking be put away from you with all malice
   4. A soft answer turns away wrath
   5. Fathers provoke not your children to anger

1. What does anger look like?
   1. an outward explosion
   2. a simmering resentment
   3. harsh words
   4. Rage
   5. An angry person is churlish, mean, unkind
      1. Illustration of Nabal
         1. churlish - difficult, fierce, intense
         2. Evil - bad, disagreeable, giving pain, unhappiness, or misery)
   6. An angry person is difficult to get along with
   7. Anger leads to bitterness and poisons an individual as well as everyone close to them - especially one's spouse and kids

1. What do we know about anger? Some things to understand:
   1. If you are single, know this: an anger issue always gets worse after marriage.
      1. "with a furious man you shall not go . . ."
      2. It is impossible to live with an angry man without making him angry
      3. Same is true for an angry woman
   2. The target of anger is not the cause
      1. You are not to carry the responsibility for a spouses anger or a parents anger
      2. It is not your fault if your spouse is angry
      3. It is not your fault if your parents are angry
   3. Regarding men:
      1. anger is fueled by testosterone and is different than a woman's anger
      2. Anger is physical often before it is processed
         1. (think of punching a wall)
         2. Crying is a woman's response to feeling unloved; anger is a man's response to feeling disrespected
      3. Talking things out will not make things better
         1. A man has to process his anger before he can talk
         2. Talking about it in the moment will only increase his anger
         3. give him time to golf, piddle in the garage, or whatever
            1. This is how he processes his emotions
            2. Very few men process their emotions by talking
   4. Regarding women:
      1. Anger is fueled by emotions and wounds
      2. Anger is often a result of unresolved conflicts
      3. Anger is sometimes the result of unmet expectations

Overcoming

1 John 5:4

This is the victory that overcomes the world, even our faith.

2 Corinthians 2:14

But thanks be unto God, who always causes us to triumph in Christ

Introduction: As we enter 2026, we are going to explore the word Overcoming!

How do you overcome (fill in the blank)?

Henry Ford "Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently"

Proposition: It is God's plan that we overcome every issue we face in our marriage and family and minstry.

Here are four essentials

1. The Word of God - what does the Bible say
2. Use of proven methods
   1. but is not a proven method
   2. and is a failed method
   1. but is a failed method
   1. Gentle parenting sounds so "cool"
   2. Cohabitation sounds plausible

1. Use of proven resources
   1. Connection classes, Sunday School, life groups, etc
   2. Worship
   3. Preaching
   4. Counseling
   1. Books are a gift from God that most people never take advantage of
   2. When it comes marriage and family issues, you cannot get the help you need in video snippets and fast-paced graphics
   3. The church

1. The investment of right steps over a long period of time
   1. Time is required to do the work
   2. Time is required to seek God through His Word in prayer
   3. Time is required for a continual application of right steps
   4. Time is required to develope new habits
   5. Time is required to make changes
   6. Time is required to sow seeds that can grow and bring fruit

Today, Bethlie and I wanted to reminisce a bit; talk about the future of the podcast; and make a plea for your help.

Reminisce

1. We have podcasted weekly for 5 years now.
   1. A ton of study
   2. More than a few hours in recording
   3. Hundreds of messages and emails answered
2. We have enjoyed getting to know so many new people through our podcast
   1. Lots of couples
   2. More than a few familes
   3. Quite a few singles and teens as well

The Future

1. We know there is a need
2. We know there is a growing need
   1. There is an ignorance of Biblical Truth
      1. There is simultaneously a growing embrace of cultural norms
         1. Masculinity is downplayed
         2. Feminism is celebrated - indirectly, but celebrated nonetheless
         3. Marriage is feared and discouraged
            1. Wait until college is over
            2. Wait until you have X amount of money and a secure enough job
      2. While Christianity is frustrated at the aggressiveness of liberal views, we sometimes are getting the same results when it comes to preparing our kids for work, for marriage, and for life
         1. Transgenderism and homosexuality and feminism destroy and damage the traditionally celebrated nuclear family.
         2. They also undermine it.
   2. There is a subtle refusal of Biblical Commands
      1. An increasing favoring of cultural views
         1. The issue of leadership and submission
         2. The issue of modesty and standards relating to modesty
         3. The issue of child training
            1. A fear of correction
               1. It will damage a child
               2. It is negative
               3. Our forefathers were too hard
            2. A fear of culture
   3. There is a failure of Biblical instruction
      1. in pulpits
      2. in homes
         1. Our boys are held back from being and becoming men who are prepared to be leaders, husbands, and fathers
            1. There is very little training
            2. There is also a disdain of male leadership
         2. Our daughters are redirected form being and becoming ladies who are trained and prepared to be wives and mommies
            1. There is almost no training in this area
            2. There is a disdain for male leadership
               1. Shown in ridicule
               2. Shown in weddings
               3. Shown in women's Bible studies
   4. All this is to say, there is a growing need.

Our request

1. We request your prayers
2. We request your promotion
   1. Like and share on social media
   2. Give a rating if you are able to do so
   3. Tell others
3. We request your support
   1. Many of you support us periodically
   2. Some of you support us monthly
      1. A few churches do
      2. Some individuals do
   3. Perhaps God would lead you to do the same
   4. We will be updating our giving site in coming months, but for now, you can give online at EvangelistDaveYoung.com or by check made payable to Dave and Bethlie Young at 2621 Woodstone Dr Poplar Bluff MO 63901

As we come to the end of yet another year, lets determine afresh and anew that "we will serve the Lord with gladness."

Happy New Year!