Join Dave and Bethlie as they look at Psalm 107. Get in the spirit of thanksgiving together.

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In this episode, Dave and Bethlie discuss "Good Pictures Bad Pictures," a critical resource for porn-proofing today's young kids in an age where internet pornography is accessible, affordable, anonymous, and aggressively seeking out our children. This book provides parents with practical tools and age-appropriate language to help children develop their own internal filter against harmful content before they're exposed to it. We'll explore why protecting our kids from pornography is essential and how this book equips families with a proactive plan to address one of the most dangerous threats facing children today.

1. Young children are being exposed to Internet Pornography
   1. They tell several devastating stories of real kids damaged by it
   2. These kids prompted the book
2. Porn is accessible to children and is anonymous and affordable (free)
3. When it comes to kids and pornography, ignorance is risk.
   1. A child's brain is wired to imitate what it sees
   2. A child is therefore more vulnerable to porn
   3. Viewing porn alters a child's brain in such a way that it easily leads to an addiction that is harder to overcome than drugs or alcohol
4. 100% of kids who choose to continue to view porn after an initial exposure are negatively influenced
   1. Today's porn has metastasized into degrading violence, rape, sex with children, group sex, and horrors that cannot be spoken outlaid.
   2. Addiction is very real
   3. Porn is a sinister counterfeit because it teaches that sex is a form of self-gratifying and often violent diversion instead of a way to build a loving committed relationship with someone they trust.
5. Kids must develop their own internet filters.
   1. Its called porn-proofing
   2. It teaches kids what porn is
   3. It teaches them why it is harmful to their brains
   4. It teaches them how to minimize impact once they have been exposed

About the chapters

Chapter 1 defines pornography

Chapter 2 defines addiction

Chapter 3 discusses the "feeling brain" (as opposed to the "thinking brain")

Chapter 4 discusses the "thinking brain"

Chapter 5 discusses how to put the two together

Chapter 6 My brains attraction center

Chapter 7 How Porn tries the brain into an addiction

Chapter 8 A CAN DO plan

Chapter 9 Escaping the poison of pornography

About the CAN DO plan

1. Close my eyes immediately
2. Always tell a trusted adult
3. Name it when I see it
4. Distract myself
5. Order my thinking brain to be the boss

Part 4 in the series on the book The DNA of Parent-Teen Relationships.

Chapter 5. How to Argue with Teenagers and Come Out as Closer Friends

1. 5,000 adults asked what they wished their parents had done differently during times of conflict
   1. They wished their parents had listened more
   2. They wished they could have talked about feelings more.
   3. They wished they had talked to their parents more
2. Begin by listening - James 1:19
   1. Sometimes we men don't know what to say to connect to our children's emotions - listening is a huge part of the battle
3. Allow their emotion to touch you
   1. Take time to feel their pain
   2. Take time to feel their sadness
4. Four destructive ways to argue
   1. Continually withdrawing from an argument
   2. Letting them escalate into hurtful name calling fights
   3. Belittling or invalidating each other during an argument
   4. Believing that a family member is tryin to hurt, frustrate, or cause fear on purpose.
5. Drive-thru talking!

Chapter 7 Democracy can bring responsibility to your home

1. This is the chapter where they talk about making a contract
   1. See p. 118 for the why have one
   2. And p. 118 on how to develop one
2. p. 125 They give advice on Dating