I took my American wife to Nigeria for the first time… and I was nervous the whole time. From the moment we landed, I didn’t know what to expect. Seeing Nigeria through her eyes was eye-opening — some moments were exciting, some overwhelming, and some I definitely wasn’t ready for. This is our real experience.

Most people say that when you get married, you “become one.”

But what does that actually mean… and does it mean losing yourself? In this episode, we talk about individuality in marriage—how to stay true to who you are while building a life with someone else.

We get into: Why personal space still matters in marriage How to balance “your space, my space, and our space” Navigating boundaries without losing connection And what we’re learning about compromise in real time

Marriage isn’t about losing yourself. But it also isn’t about doing whatever you want either. So where’s the balance? 💬

Let us know in the comments: Do you believe in “becoming one,” or do you think individuality matters more?

Is "Never go to bed angry" actually the secret to a happy marriage, or is it just a recipe for resentment? 🛌💢 In this episode of the Jollof and Kompa Podcast, we’re tearing down one of the biggest marriage myths ever told. After a solo trip to Spain led to some unexpected "nightclub interrogation" vibes at home, we found ourselves diving deep into how we actually handle conflict. Why do we feel pressured to "fake a peace" just because the sun is going down? From the "silent treatment" tactics we learned from our Nigerian parents to the pressure of "church advice," we’re getting real about why forcing an apology can sometimes do more harm than good.

Join the Conversation: Do you have to settle an argument before bed, or is it better to sleep on it?

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Marriage & Money is a big topic. We talked about our finances in this episode and how we split money in our marriage. The things we have successfully figured out, and the things we still struggle with. Follow us on Instagram & Facebook: Instagram: @jollofandkompa Facebook: Jollof and Kompa - By Alexis & Augustus

Can your spouse really be your everything? Your best friend, your therapist, your lover, your hype person? In this episode, we had an honest conversation about dependency in marriage, why putting that kind of pressure on your partner can quietly damage your relationship, and what it actually looks like to build a healthier dynamic together. Spoiler: he had thoughts. A lot of them. Pull up a chair — Jollof & Kompa is in session

We had a huge fight over a fun activity that Alexis was trying to plan. In this episode we talked about our most recent fight and how we usually find our way back to baseline after arguments.

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In this episode, we talked about surviving as a couple in extreme situations. Working out as a way to stay attractive to your spouse and where Augustus allegience lies in stressful times.

We talked about emotional affairs vs physical affairs, hosting our first house party, and how Alexis failed her first driving test.