In this deep and eye-opening episode of The Jesus People Podcast, licensed therapist and author Jay Stringer unpacks why willpower alone never brings lasting freedom. From pornography and addiction to food, anger, and ambition, Jay explains how our unwanted behaviors are not random but are telling a story rooted in trauma, attachment, and desire.

Jay shares how shame, strict upbringing, emotional neglect, and unresolved wounds shape what we crave, why accountability often fails, and how curiosity, not condemnation, leads to real healing. This conversation challenges both lust management and cultural normalization, inviting listeners to understand how God uses desire not to destroy us but to restore us.

If you have ever asked, “Why do I keep doing what I do not want to do,” this episode offers clarity, compassion, and a path forward grounded in truth, psychology, and Scripture.

• Why willpower and accountability alone do not lead to freedom • How trauma and attachment shape sexual desire and addiction • The hidden role of shame, powerlessness, and emotional neglect • Why porn, food, and substances often become substitutes for soothing • How desire can form either the best or worst version of you • Moving from lust management to curiosity and healing • Why God’s kindness, not condemnation, leads to repentance • Integrating your story instead of being trapped by it • How desire can become a pathway to joy, purpose, and restoration

If you or someone you love is struggling with addiction, shame, unwanted habits, or confusion around desire, this conversation offers hope. Freedom begins when we stop asking only how to stop and start asking why.

Subscribe for more transformative conversations on The Jesus People Podcast, where we explore healing, identity, and the life God is forming in each of us.

For Christian life coaching rooted in identity in Christ, where trusted coaches guide you through scripture, prayer, and practical steps toward healing and purpose, visit Share the Struggle: https://www.sharethestruggle.org/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ryan_miller/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dudewithgoodnews Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dudewithgoodnews/ Website and coaching: https://www.sharethestruggle.org/coaching-rm Email: https://open.spotify.com/show/0RLKmkUpydJr2y84tqQekp Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/jesus-people-podcast/id1768632876 Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/dac27441-bed6-4d73-9246-d2dbe93dccf0/jesus-people-podcast

#JayStringer #PornAddiction #TraumaHealing #Desire #AttachmentTheory #ChristianMentalHealth #FreedomInChrist #HealingJourney #JesusPeoplePodcast #Shame #AddictionRecovery #FaithAndPsychology